So, I had a great opportunity yesterday. I was on a live radio show to promote www.timetoplay.com — my “midlife crisis” project that had taken a good part of my life last year. My passion. My “pebble in the pond” to start the ripple to make a life better for — well, I’m shooting for everyone.
So, we get to the radio station early. We talk to the interviewer. I’m psyched and ready to go. Since we were early he suggested we relax outside on the patio while we waited. “Sure,” I said (as I’m always so accommodating). What I should have said was “let me set up my stuff first and get all ready”. Well, lesson learned. At 2 minutes to 1 when we are supposed to go on the air, he comes out and said “let’s go”! I’m not ready. I’m scrambling. “10 seconds!” I still didn’t have my notes out. I choked. I couldn’t recover. I couldn’t focus.
Lesson learned. Throughout my life I’ve always been so accommodating to everyone. Always trying to please – even if it was at my own expense. Even if it didn’t make me happy. Why? Not sure. But this is something many women do. There are lots of articles on it. We don’t say what we think. We hold it in. And then we become frustrated, sad, ruin relationships, become unhappy.
Lesson learned. Next time I need to take more control. Next time I need to say what I need in order to succeed.
OK. I know it won’t happen. I’ll be as accommodating as always. But I will think about this experience and, hopefully, it will start to help me.
If anyone has suggestions on how to speak your mind or if anyone knows why we don’t (I think more so for women), I’d love to hear from you and to start a discussion on this.
In the very near future I’d like to start a podcast to help people through the www.timetoplay.com site — you know, to help provide the whole resources for a better life thing. This might be a very good topic to cover.
Let me know what you think. Comment here, call me 631-331-2675 or email @ firstname.lastname@example.org