Cognitive Dissonance – Being Open to a New Belief

Cognitive Dissonance

I wanted to share this important awareness about cognitive dissonance for your consideration.

It seems that every day, in our current world, new “truths” and information is becoming visible.

These may include truths we never would have considered, awareness of  corruption that may hurt our inner soul, or things that may go against our ethics or beliefs.

I believe it is important to take some time to adjust and to take some time for self-care.

Let yourself feel what you are feeling and recognize your emotion. There are many, many emotion lists out there for you to reference, or contact us for a list that we can send you.  I believe that it does help to identify and name what you are feeling in order to work through that feeling and then be able to shift your feeling and emotion to an emotion that will better serve you going forward.

Remember to take a breath and to take time to let things settle in your mind.

It will, no doubt, take us all time to come to terms with lies we had believed and people we had trusted.  This is a really great entry into the concept of self-awareness.

Everything I have been learning over these past 10 years points to this key foundational step of self awareness in our own emotional intelligence tool box. Emotional intelligence is learned behavior. NO ONE teaches us these most important life skills to be aware of what we are feeling in any given moment and how our resulting behavior impacts our own health and wellbeing and that of others.

I have learned that, with some exceptions, even our parents didn’t know how to control their emotions and their behaviors, and I realize that you can’t teach what you don’t know.

I didn’t know about this magnificent concept when I was raising my children, either, something that would have been most helpful throughout my lifetime.  I have learned that the lack of emotional intelligence creates “broken” people who create “broken” kids and the cycle continues, as I had written in my book If I knew Then What I Know Now a few years ago, (

I know now that, any time we can get awareness about ourselves and tools to control our thoughts — to STOP and take a moment to shut our unconscious downward spiral down — to recognize the thoughts that help us or hurt us, is an amazing thing.

At this time in our lives and our world, I believe that it is most important to recognize our thoughts, whether joy or stress or anger or frustration, etc.

These thoughts link directly to our stress management and behavior, and we MUST be aware of the impact of our behavior on our actions as it relates to the wellbeing for ourselves and others as we adjust to new truths.

If you need help dealing with your emotions, thoughts or feeling, please call or email.

Be there for each other, too.

Know you are not alone.

Here for you.

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Doreen Guma

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPHRM, CPC, CLC:  Doreen holds a Bachelor of Science in Management, a Masters in Business and Policy Studies, is a Fellow of the American College of Healthcare Executives, a Certified Social and Emotional Intelligence Coach, Certified Professional Coach, Certified Life Coach, and the author of the book, If I Knew Then What I Know Now, Our Quest for Quality of Life.

Doreen is the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit organization with the mission and purpose to enrich the lives of others through programs, public awareness outreach activities, events and learning opportunities that further the concept of enjoying life.  The Foundation’s website,, has resources, events and articles for a person to learn what they need to know for a better life.  Contact Doreen at 631-331-2675 or email:

The Foundation offers an unconventional approach in a non-threatening manner to provide solutions for the life situations that people may encounter.  Working in healthcare since 1987, and with her background in quality improvement, she has followed statistics showing our society’s current evolution to be more “sick and sad”.   She developed the Time to Play Philosophy:  you have to be happy, healthy, have money and a work / life balance for quality of life and believes everyone has the ability to enjoy life.

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