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The Power of Now — a journey to discovery

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Don’t know if you have had the time to join in / read the book discussion re: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, but I’m up to page 65.  Here’s what I’m thinking about so far. . .

There are a lot of thought provoking statements in the pages I’ve read.  And, I start to wonder about how I do think and the “chatter” which has brought me so many good ideas and breakthroughs.  So where do you draw the line of what is good or bad chatter?  How do you turn it on or off as needed? Hopefully as I read more I’ll learn more I’ll figure this out.

Here’s an amazing, thought provoking paragraph (page 46-47):  “As long as the egoic mind is running your life, you cannot truly be at ease; you cannot be at peace or fulfilled except for brief intervals when you obtained what you wanted, when a craving has just been fulfilled.  Since the ego is a derived sense of self, it needs to identify with external things.  It needs to be both defended and fed constantly.  The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, personal and family history, belief systems, and often also political, nationalistic, racial, religious and other collective identifications. None of these is you . . . The ego’s needs are endless.  It feels vulnerable and threatened and so lives in a state of fear and want”.

Wow.  I totally saw myself in this.  Did you?  The pursuit of career, completing my masters, my job.  These things defined me, pushed me.  If I had a good day at work, I was in a good mood.  Bad day?  Bad mood.  HOWEVER, at what point do you need motivation to pursue a “life”, and at what point are you kind of a hump of flesh (very visual, huh?) sitting on a couch?  BUT, the state of fear and want sentence makes you think, too.  Is this pursuit what’s causing us so much stress?  What do we really need or want?  Is that what we need to evaluate to have a good quality of life?  At what point do we not strive?  I’m still reading, so, hopefully this will be answered.

The author continued to talk about the past, the future vs. the now.  The life situations we are dealing with, not the LIFE.  I’ll leave you with this:  (page 63) “Your life situation exists in time.  Your life is now.  Your life situation is mind-stuff.  Your life is real”.  The author notes that we need to realize that there are no problems, only situations to be dealt with now, or to be left alone and accepted as part of the present moment until they change or can be dealt with, and that problems are mind-made and need time to survive.

Hmmmm —

Book Discussion continues:  Go to Book Discussion

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It's All About Time

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As always, I’m thinking again. 

A few years ago we bought a used boat.  The name of the boat is “It’s All About Time”.  We were going to change the name to something family oriented, but superstitions did not allow us to do so.  If you change a boat name you have to re-christen it.  With a fear of sinking, we decided to just let it be.  So, we’re put “It’s All About Time” into the water for the past few years, not using it as much as we would like because, well, we just don’t have the time.

Time.  It is the center of everything we do.  “It’s all about time”.  How many times do we hear or say:  What Time is it?  Do you have the Time?  I didn’t finish – I ran out of Time.  I’d love to, but I don’t have the Time.  Where did the Time go?  There’s never enough Time.  Time management.  Time savings tips.  Time to sleep.  Time to wake up.  Time for work.  Sick Time.  Vacation Time.  Time to go home.  Time goes so fast.  You get the idea.

Time to Play.  The idea came to me a year ago during Americade, a motorcycle rally we had attended.  We wanted to go for years and finally booked the trip and went.  At 45 and 47 years old we were pretty much the youngest people there.  I looked around.  There were people “playing”.  They were doing something they loved and having a great time.  I thought about something my mother-in-law said  to me that repeats in my mind all the time.  My in-laws are retired and take a lot of trips.  Why?  To get it all in (bucket list) before they can’t do it.  They are taking time to play.  The people at Americade were taking time to play.  I realized that I needed to take time to play.  Something that I don’t generally do.  I work.  I think.  Actually, I really don’t know how to play, but I’m trying. 

It’s All About Time.  What’s important?  What brings happiness?  So, as it has been right in front of me, I realize it is all about time.  What do you spend your day doing?  Is it something you want to do?  Something that makes you healthy? Something that makes you happy?  Something that makes you financially stable?  Something that brings balance to your life?

I’d like to talk to people about how they spend their time.  What brings them enjoyment.  What things did they cross off their bucket list.  What do they do to save time so they can have time to play. 

It’s all about time, and it’s time to play.

Email me: doreen@timetoplay.com

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www.timetoplay.com is a website in progress for over a year with a goal to help people have a better quality of life.  We are looking for contributors to be professional resources that have information on happiness, health, financial and work/life balance.  We also need people to add their clubs and events so people can find camraderie and companionship.  Please go to www.timetoplay.com to add your stuff — hey, we built it!  Now we need you to use it!

Ugg. I Choked. Lesson Learned.

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So, I had a great opportunity yesterday.  I was on a live radio show to promote www.timetoplay.com — my “midlife crisis” project that had taken a good part of my life last year.  My passion.  My “pebble in the pond” to start the ripple to make a life better for — well, I’m shooting for everyone.

So, we get to the radio station early.  We talk to the interviewer.  I’m psyched and ready to go.  Since we were early he suggested we relax outside on the patio while we waited.  “Sure,” I said (as I’m always so accommodating).  What I should have said was “let me set up my stuff first and get all ready”.  Well, lesson learned.  At 2 minutes to 1 when we are supposed to go on the air, he comes out and said “let’s go”!  I’m not ready.  I’m scrambling.  “10 seconds!”  I still didn’t have my notes out.  I choked.  I couldn’t recover.  I couldn’t focus.

Lesson learned.  Throughout my life I’ve always been so accommodating to everyone.  Always trying to please – even if it was at my own expense.  Even if it didn’t make me happy.  Why?  Not sure.  But this is something many women do.  There are lots of articles on it.  We don’t say what we think.  We hold it in.  And then we become frustrated, sad, ruin relationships, become unhappy.

Lesson learned.  Next time I need to take more control.  Next time I need to say what I need in order to succeed.

OK.  I know it won’t happen.  I’ll be as accommodating as always.  But I will think about this experience and, hopefully, it will start to help me.

If anyone has suggestions on how to speak your mind or if anyone knows why we don’t (I think more so for women), I’d love to hear from you and to start a discussion on this.

In the very near future I’d like to start a podcast to help people through the www.timetoplay.com site — you know, to help provide the whole resources for a better life thing.  This might be a very good topic to cover.

Let me know what you think.  Comment here, call me 631-331-2675 or email @ info@timetoplay.com

Doreen

A Labor of Love

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Today is the day the www.timetoplay.com site “launches”.  It is finally done.  And the TimetoPlay van is rolling!

We’ve worked on this for over 10 months.  “It’s done”, I’d declare.  But, it was not done.  We’d go back to the drawing board, adding this, adding that.  This went on week after week, I’d think I was happy, but I was never satisfied.  www.timetoplay.com, my midlife crisis project, never was able to showcase what I was trying to convey.

Through persistence, and some tears, we finally were able to evolve the concept — Resources for a Better Life.  I swore Leta, my web designer and my friend, who has truly put up working with me since 2005, would come and kill me in my sleep.  But she hung in there, like a trooper, to change pages, links, words, forums, etc., almost weekly.

I’ve worked in healthcare since 1987.  I’ve seen sick and sad people and situations.  I’ve seen people rely on drugs to help them through everything.  I’ve seen people who had been prescribed to take 29 medications a day.  I’ve watched and read literature as our population increases in cardiac illness, diabetes, stress, depression.  And, most of all, where we, the working people, don’t have time left over while trying to get through our day to have quality of life, or had worked so hard all our lives that, at 70 years old, are trying to do everything  to enjoy life before it’s too late.  Luckily I had an epiphany before 70.  At 45 years old I realized I didn’t have quality of life, either — that’s how it started.  My midlife crisis project.  My way to give back.  My way to start the “pebble in the pond” and get people to work together, give resources, help charities and make our own lives better.  You never know how far the ripple will go.

My goal for www.timetoplay.com is to help people — to provide anything I can think of — and more will be added along the way — with resources they can utilize to create a better, happier, healthier life.

From finding something a simple event, to finding a club, to encouraging a person to do something they love or have always dreamed of doing.  And, to inspire them.  That is my ultimate goal.  Life is short.  Get out there.  Do it.  Take the “Pledge to Play” — take 10 minutes a day to do something you love.  It’s a start.

Check it out.  Let me know what you want to see.  We all need to enjoy life.  After all, it is now TimetoPlay.

With Love,

Doreen