Perceptions: If I Knew Then What I Know Now

“I have identified that my perceptions about my experience, and what I have spent the past years choosing to believe, caused my behaviors and actions”.  – Excerpt from If I Knew Then What I Know Now, page 120

Yesterday I wrote about (see article) each moment of each day being a fresh start and mentioned “labeling”, and how that was going to be today’s thought…

So, I pulled out this book… my book… that I had written a few years ago.

I started flipping through the pages because in the book we had written about labeling and how our perception, and our beliefs effect our actions.

I wrote this book and, honestly, haven’t read it in years.  I actually had put it aside — it had been written, and I moved on.

This book covers incredible things.  It had 17 contributors who told their story, and these stories have not changed.  (See more about it.)

Learning from our youth, we build beliefs and the direction for our lives that effect every day forward.  Labeling and believing something is “bad” or something is “good” makes tremendous impact in our choices, actions, and our quality of life.

This awareness is LEARNED behavior.  We are not born with the ability to have self-awareness, we learn it.

As I’ve written the past few days, today, again, remember to not let the negative voices tell you stories.  Stop, take a moment, and evaluate your situation to make the best choice for you — for your right now.  Look at your possible actions that you can take, and make what you can control your focus — not the “good” or “bad”.  It’s your choice to think of something as “good” or “bad” or just a situation to deal with in your best way possible.

I believe that it’s time to enjoy your life.

I believe that it is TIME to Play <3


Doreen Guma

PS — for coaching for Self-Awareness, one of the 26 Emotional Intelligence skills, please call the Time to Play Foundation, 631-331-2675 or email

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC:  Doreen holds a Bachelor of Science in Management, a Masters in Business and Policy Studies, is a Fellow of the American College of Healthcare Executives, a Certified Social and Emotional Intelligence Coach, Certified Professional Coach, Certified Life Coach, and the author of the book, If I Knew Then What I Know Now, Our Quest for Quality of Life.

Doreen is the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit organization with the mission and purpose to enrich the lives of others through programs, public awareness outreach activities, events and learning opportunities that further the concept of enjoying life.  The Foundation’s website,, has resources, events and articles for a person to learn what they need to know for a better life.  Contact Doreen at 631-331-2675 or email:

The Foundation offers an unconventional approach in a non-threatening manner to provide solutions for the life situations that people may encounter.  Working in healthcare since 1987, and with her background in quality improvement, she has followed statistics showing our society’s current evolution to be more “sick and sad”.   She developed the Time to Play Philosophy:  you have to be happy, healthy, have money and a work / life balance for quality of life and believes everyone has the ability to enjoy life.

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