Terminal C – Lessons Learned for Happiness and My Behavior

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I’ve learned a lot since starting the Time to Play, my “reminder to enjoy life” project.  Here’s a quick story about an experience I encountered just this past Wednesday, February 19, 2014. 

After the fact, it “hit me” that my behavior in the face of a trying situation was pleasing, and I realized I was truly proud of how I handled my response.  I realized my reaction was quite different than it would have been just a few months or years ago.  I’m sharing my story with the hopes that my experience will help another person avoid having hard feelings.

I was in South Carolina to present a talk entitled, “The Ability to Play is Not Just Physical”, at the US Play Coalition’s National Conference the week of 2/17/2014.  I believe everyone in the Northeast has experienced crazy weather lately.  My airplane was a little delayed on the way down to South Carolina.  The delay was not so bad, though, as it was a direct flight, and we even landed pretty much on time.

The way back was a little different.  We were over a half hour late taking off.  That would have been fine, but I had a connecting flight in Washington Dulles Airport back to New York’s JFK airport.  I was never at the airport in Washington before, and had traveled alone to attend the conference.  It’s definitely easier to figure things out when you have a companion, but here I was, on my own.

Before we landed I asked the stewardess if she knew what gate I needed to go to for my connecting flight back to New York.  I knew that, with the delay, there would only be minutes between when we landed and when my connecting flight would be taking off.  She said she did not know, but expected the gates would be close together and that I shouldn’t have a problem making my flight.

Well…. the gates were not close by to each other.  Not even a little bit.  My flight landed at the absolute furthest point of Terminal A.  I got out of one of the smallest planes I ever saw (it was a commuter plane, I was told) and went into the hallway of the terminal to search for a flight directory.  I soon found that I had to be at Gate 28 in Terminal C! 

I started following the signs to Terminal C.  I walked and walked… quickly, I might add.  The time was ticking.

I went down a huge escalator and found a “travel adviser” at the bottom.  He was standing in front of a huge directory board.  After waiting much too long for a woman who got to him before me ask where the rental cars could be found, I asked him how to get to Terminal C.  He told me to take the “SUBWAY” to terminal C, and it should take about 7 minutes for me to get there.

“SUBWAY?” I exclaimed!  Oh, my goodness, the time was ticking!  So I started running down the hallway to find the subway.

At that point I could have started to get frustrated, grouchy, upset and angry.

BUT, I didn’t.  I actually started running down the hallways and people movers and escalators I had to travel on making jokes to people I passed along the way.  I even made a few comments about how impressed I was about the person / people who designed this massive underground network connecting the airport, and how amazed I was at how huge it was.

My only moment of panic was when I was on the subway between the terminals and the train’s computer voice said, “This train is now out of service”.  Not that I minded if it was in or out of service, but I just had no desire to be stuck inside an out of service train.  Once the train doors opened to let us out, I was fine.

I credit the education I have learned from what I’ve learned through my Life Coach training and what I’ve learned on Time to Play from my fellow Time to Play professionals, especially Rebecca L. Norrington.  Rebecca speaks of internal peace, the universe, spirit and freedom, and I’ve learned a lot from her. 

I realize it is up to us how we are going to react to situations.  We can allow situations that occur in our day to rob us of our happiness.

I learned it is up to us how we are going to react to others, to how they speak to us, or to things they do “to” us.  We can let people rob us of our happiness, our feelings, our confidence, and/or our self-esteem.  We can allow our reactions to affect our day, week, or even longer. 

OR, I have learned, we can CHOOSE to react in a manner that enables us to shine.   Sometimes we have to take a moment to STOP and to reevaluate a situation that may be escalating around us.  But, truly, I have found that it is worth it to do so.

I made it to Gate 28 in Terminal C and had a great flight back.  I wound up talking to a wonderful woman who was sitting next to me.  I was in a great mood and enjoyed the experience, and after I landed met my wonderful husband at the airport who had come to pick me up.

After the fact, I realized I was proud of my behavior.  I am very proud of how I’ve grown, due to what I’ve learned through Time to Play.  I am proud of having created a place where people can learn what they need to know so they can enjoy life.  That is the ultimate goal of www.TimetoPlay.com.

If you have gotten to this point in my story, I thank you for taking your time to read this.  If you have a story to share where you are proud of how you handled a situation, please contact me.  Sometimes examples of situations we encounter can help another learn how to not “let them in”!

We can’t control others, but I now know that it is truly up to us to control how we will behave.

With many blessings for great happiness and peace,

Doreen 

Authored by: Doreen Guma

Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC 

Doreen holds a Bachelor of Science in Management, a Masters in Business and Policy Studies, is a Fellow of the American College of Healthcare Executives (a board certified healthcare executive), a Certified Professional Coach and a Certified Life Coach.

Doreen is the founder of Time to Play, a place to find resources for a better life.  She came up with the Time to Play Philosophy that you have to be happy, healthy, have money and a work / life balance to have quality of life, and believes everyone has the right and the ability to enjoy life.

Doreen has worked in healthcare since 1987, 14 years in a hospital and since 2001 in skilled nursing facilities.  She has held positions in administration, as the Director of Quality Improvement, Risk Manager and Director of Medical Records.

In 2005 she and her husband opened D. James Marketing, a healthcare specific consulting firm which assists healthcare organizations with new program generation, quality improvement, staff and client satisfaction, event coordination, coordinating educational symposiums and more to help spread the message about the healthcare servics they provide. The primary goal of D. James Marketing is to educate the community about resources that are available so people may know where to seek help in the event of a health need or a health crisis with a focus on proactive prevention. 

Contact: 631-331-2675
www.TimetoPlay.com
www.djamesmarketing.com 

Email: doreen@djamesmarketing.com 

There is 1 comment for this article
  1. Brian Cohen DTM at 8:25 pm

    Interesting is that on Rebecca’s radio show this morning we spoke about this exact topic. Not you flight but about the ability to live on the moment, to not pre-judge and as Rebecca stated it, to not label events. By taking his approach you will experience each event in a much different manner as you did. Nice story, great message.

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