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Gotta Start Somewhere

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Don't Give UpA few weeks ago I was feeling sluggish. I sit most of the day at work. My legs felt particularly achy, and the best way I can describe the feeling in my back was “crunchy”. Those of you who are 50-ish can probably relate to that description!

I decided to start a walking group in our community and posted it on Facebook. The first day we met, one of my neighbors said he always wanted to run the Tunnel to Towers 5K. This is an annual fundraiser in memory of Firefighter Stephen Siller who lost his life on September 11. (For more information about Tunnel to Towers: http://tunnel2towers.org/stephens-story)

I told him, “Hey, let’s do it!” At this point in my life, and through my experience with the Time to Play project, I will work to make anyone’s vision a reality if it is in my power to do so.

So… here’s the thing. Running is not easy for me. The last time I “ran” was in 2004 when I successfully completed a 5K in close to 31 minutes (long story on how I got involved in that!).  And, I do use the word “run” very loosely. I know there are diehard runners, and that’s truly not my skill level. That said, we started meeting every other day to train with a program called From Couch to 5K except for when our schedules did not permit. A few other neighbors also join us at the track periodically.

When my running partner left for a week of vacation, I went out by myself to continue the training program. I found it harder to follow the program without the camaraderie, and did not get as far as when we were at the track together… but, that’s o.k.!

I’m taking “baby steps” and I am still going.

The term “baby steps” may pertain to many things we attempt to do in our lives. Think about it. We sometimes have to take “baby steps” in relationships, job searches, diet changes, learning, or achieving a desire.

BUT, I believe that it is better to take a “baby step”, and to keep at it, then to not take any step at all.

Sometimes we may have to go out of our comfort zone when we’re starting something new. I believe it is rare when we do or try something one time and become an “expert”. There are many sayings that we can utilize here to emphasize this point, for example one I heard since I was little: “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again”.

Starting is never easy. But the key is to start.  Here’s a link to some more quotes that might drive you to keep going.

With that in mind, what is something you’ve always wanted to do? What is something in your life that you plan to do “someday”?

Well, maybe “someday” can be today.

What’s that first “baby step” you can take?

With the Couch to 5K app we downloaded, we don’t have to do much planning in order to complete the 5K in September. The 8 week program does all the planning work for us, and all we need to do to build our endurance incrementally to run the 3.1 miles is to push a button and following the program.

Maybe what you desire to accomplish requires a little more planning or a little more work to get from “point a” to “point b”.

Take out a pen and paper and start a list to achieve.

Again, the key word is “START”.

It’s time to enjoy life. It’s time to play.

Love, Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is a board certified healthcare executive, a certified professional life coach, the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life and author of If I Knew Then What I Know Now, Our Quest for Quality of Life.  The concept behind time to Play and the Time to Play Foundation was absolutely created out of LOVE. Please see https://timetoplay.com/ for more information.

No Baggage

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No BaggageEvery morning I read a bunch of emails from different sources that fill my mind with thought provoking, inspirational and positive ideas.

Today there was an email with a concept I had to share. It gave me a visual “aha” that anyone can use.

This article is going to be much shorter than others I have written, as the message is simple, clear and something we can all understand. It’s a “key” that can be easy to remember any time we might need it, and might just be the spark to shift a person towards a happier life.

The message: “No Baggage”.

What exactly does that mean?

How many people take “baggage” with them on a daily basis, reliving something that happened yesterday, last week, last month, last year… how many people blame someone for something in their lives? Do you?

I believe it’s the “Baggage” that keeps us trapped and unhappy. It’s the “Baggage” that may cause us to find fault, give us doubts, or prevent us from loving ourselves.

We cannot change the past. There’s nothing we can do. BUT, when we keep taking “Baggage” with us, we continue to live the same cycle.

Think about how reliving the past keeps us feeling poorly. We can’t change it. Maybe it’s time to take a second to STOP, realize we’re doing this, and let it go. Maybe we can forgive the person who wronged us or the situation where we felt embarrassed that continues to paralyze us.

When we bring “Baggage” to the workplace, we may create a sense of tension. When we bring “Baggage into a relationship, we create an opportunity of displeasure. How many times have you heard a relationship failed because they “brought their old baggage” with them”?

We realize we and others do these things, but continue to let history repeat itself. Perhaps it’s time to break the cycle. Perhaps it’s time to focus on what’s good happening in our lives right now and stop bringing the “Baggage” forward to today and to tomorrow.

I believe the concept is an easy one.

“It’s not that simple”, perhaps you are thinking… maybe it doesn’t FEEL that simple, but I believe that, sometimes, we make things harder for ourselves and for others.

Keep the vision of the suitcase with you as a reminder if that helps.  And, please reach out to us if there is a way we can help you “unpack”.

After all, it is time to enjoy life. It is Time to Play.

Love, Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is a board certified healthcare executive, a certified professional life coach, the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life and author of If I Knew Then What I Know Now, Our Quest for Quality of Life.  The concept behind time to Play and the Time to Play Foundation was absolutely created out of LOVE. Please see https://timetoplay.com/ for more information.

Expectation

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Expectation“This is going to be hard”

“This is going to ‘suck’ “

“I’m going to have a terrible time”

“I’m dreading going to work”

 

Sound familiar?

When we approach something with drudgery, what happens?

Our expectations never fail us, do they?

I think, many times, we create these scenarios by accident or based on previous experiences. And, worse yet, we may even impose our beliefs on how things will go or turn out on others or our kids.

I don’t believe our actions are really our fault.

We just need to be aware we’re doing this, and it’s a really hard thing to do. I believe we’ve become conditioned to “expect” what will or might happen, and our energy put into that expectation can certainly make it so.

Our society runs on expectations. We expect the weather to be a certain way, a person to be sick or well or act a certain way, to get (or not get) a job, or a divorce, or that we can or cannot achieve something, or that you won’t get that call, or _________________________ — you fill in the blank.

Take a moment to reflect on this. What do YOU expect?

Are you sometimes disappointed because you were “right”?

Perhaps it is time to break the cycle. There’s only so much time in our lives to expect the worse case scenario to materialize.

How about if we expect a POSITIVE outcome? Expectation can be a very powerful thing.

Maybe it’s time for that call to come or that “thing” to work out. How about if you begin expecting that this will be: “The best trip ever”, or “The best day at work”, or “The best time with my kids”, or “The best time with my spouse”.

After all, it is time to enjoy life. It is Time to Play.

Love, Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is a board certified healthcare executive, a certified professional life coach, the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life and author of If I Knew Then What I Know Now, Our Quest for Quality of Life.  The concept behind time to Play and the Time to Play Foundation was absolutely created out of LOVE. Please see https://timetoplay.com/ for more information.

WITH vs. FOR

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WITHI’ve had an “AHA” moment which caused me to discover why I’ve had a disconnect throughout most of my life.

I don’t believe in “FOR”.  I’ve lived my life with the vision and expectation of “WITH”.  I’ll explain.

When I work with people, I never consider them working “FOR” me, or me working “FOR” them, but “WITH” me as part of a team.  I now understand why I’ve been met, time and again, with disappointment or frustration.

I’ve gone through life pretty much with this expectation – that no one does things (or should do things) “FOR” me, but “WITH” me. Even with my kids, the “WITH” has always remained prevalent. I believe that they should (or could) recognize things we needed to accomplish as a family unit.

I don’t really think the team mentality is always prevalent in our society.  With my “AHA” moment, I started to think further and realize that, perhaps, it’s hard to change the philosophy of people when we’re in a society that emphasizes “US” against “THEM” instead of “WITH”.

I believe the transition is hard, but not impossible.

I work “WITH” people.  I look for opportunities for “US”.  A way we can ALL benefit.

I believe that should be the goal, in the end, for all of us — whether it is in our jobs, our communities, or our relationships, families, to work WITH each other.  This simple concept can truly end hostilities and unrealistic expectations so prevalent in many families, relationships, organizations and communities.

“WITH” is really not a difficult concept, but more of an awareness of how our actions affect others.

As part of a collaborative effort, things will move farther, faster, while creating a much more peaceful, loving atmosphere for us to share.  So we can ALL enjoy life.

We can look further into this idea with the evaluation of the intention behind the action of another, as well.  What are we trying to attract?  What are we trying to create:  Love or hatred?  Camaraderie or separation?

We see examples of this in our everyday lives:  In companies who create insecurity and fear in even their most loyal employees where one day their positions are “poof”, just gone.  In our youth who create separation and hard feelings through bullying.  In our political arena where partisan politics divide our elected officials, and our society, and resolutions to issues are not reached.  In a scenario where there is “dog eat dog” competition or blame.

“WITH” is such a simple concept.

What is the best option for us all if we work WITH each other?  What can YOU do, TOGETHER, with others?

Think of the possibilities if you just could ask someone their opinion and find a peaceful and common ground?

It’s time for us ALL to enjoy life.  It’s Time to Play.

Love, Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is a board certified healthcare executive, a certified professional life coach, the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life and author of If I Knew Then What I Know Now, Our Quest for Quality of Life.  Time to Play and the Time to Play Foundation was absolutely created out of LOVE.  Please see www.timetoplay.com for more information.

 

I AM Love

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I am loveThe other day I woke up with the Beatle’s song “All You Need Is Love” playing through my mind.  There is nothing closer to the truth than what is written in these words.

(Love, love, love)  There’s nothing you can do that can’t be done; Nothing you can sing that can’t be sung; Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game; It’s easy

There’s nothing you can make that can’t be made; No one you can save that can’t be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn to be you in time; It’s easy; 
All you need is love; All you need is love; All you need is love, love; Love is all you need

There’s nothing you can know that isn’t known; Nothing you can see that isn’t shown; There’s nowhere you can be that isn’t where you’re meant to be; It’s easy

 All you need is love, all together now; All you need is love, everybody; All you need is love, love;
Love is all you need   — 
Songwriters LENNON, JOHN / MCCARTNEY, PAUL

Let’s think about it.

When you do something that comes from LOVE it feels so good. Now think of how you feel when your actions come from another emotion or motivation: anger, fear, hatred, despair, stress, jealousy or frustration.  It is truly not the same feeling.  How about the feeling of “Can’t”.  That’s a big one for many.  I’ve personally experienced “can’t”, and, not only is it not a good feeling at all, it paralyzes.  Can’t certainly does not have a connection to love.

If we look at people past and present, there is wisdom to incorporate love and patience into our lives. There are many messages that are familiar:

“It’s Love makes the world go round” – W. S. Gilbert

“Love will find a way” – Christina Aguilera

“Love Conquers All” – Virgil – 19 BC

How about the reading performed at every Catholic wedding I’ve ever been to – even at my own: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails.” – 1 Corinthians 12:4-7

This is a message that has been around for quite a long time.

When I Googled the passage to include it here, I found that the section continued.  I couldn’t recall ever hearing this part, and am guessing that is probably because the emphasis at a wedding is not one of potential failure.  The section continued:  “But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away”. – 1 Corinthians 12:8

That’s pretty thought provoking, isn’t it?  So, what I hear in this is that, without love, we fail.  There is despair. Think about it.  Truly, there cannot be a war if there was love.  There would not be actions of hatred, abuse, or bullying.  How about if we had self-love… could that eliminate depression, or worse?

Maybe we should take a step back in order to become more aware so we can speak and act in love.

As I write these weekly posts, I do a lot of self reflection.  A man I know really bothered me this week.  He constantly is negative and ridicules others.  I’ve spoken about him during a few conversations this week.  I realize, as I write this, that when I spoke of him, even though my conversation originated because of my inability to understand his motivation and how he could be so hurtful, that I was not speaking love or understanding.  I realize my own actions this week, through these conversations, have robbed me and others of life enjoyment and even had spread unnecessary negativity.

Every day gives us a lesson, if we listen. 

I do strive to always hear these simple messages and I am always questioning why we don’t listen to those who came before us and why we haven’t learned such valuable lessons.  There is so much wisdom that we should share. I did write in my book, If I Knew Then What I Know Now (www.IfIKnewThenBook.com) how, “History will repeat itself if we let it”.  History repeating is truly evident and something we see in action every day.  I really work hard not to personally let this happen and to learn, everyday, how I can make change.

So, today, I AM Love.

Perhaps love is a simple solution that we could consider for ourselves.  Maybe it can change our circumstances.  If acting through Love became a priority in our lives, perhaps the motivation behind our actions would result in compassion, patience, camaraderie and teamwork.

I plan to question the motivation behind my actions and to become more aware if they are being fueled by love.

So, as you look around today, maybe there is a person in distress.  Reach out.

It’s really simple.

Share love.

I truly believe that love does conquer all.

Working together, looking out for each other, we can all enjoy life…  I believe it is certainly time to enjoy life.  I believe it is time to play.

Love,

Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life.  Time to Play and the Time to Play Foundation was absolutely created out of LOVE.  Please see www.timetoplay.com for more information.

Do you see beauty in the world?

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tall trees in lake georgeWe recently had the privilege of attending Americade, held in Lake George, New York, the beginning of June.  Americade is a motorcycle rally.  The first year we went, back in 2010, there were 30,000 motorcyclists who attended.  Not a rowdy bunch, but a group of older motorcyclists who just loved to ride.

We’ve gone to Americade three times in the past five years – something we had wanted to do years before, but the kids were younger and it was hard to take the time away.  Adding to that was that only two people fit on a motorcycle.  Americade wasn’t the ideal family vacation for us while the kids were younger, for sure.

Nostalgically, Americade is where the first ideas behind the time to play project began.  We were driving around, enjoying the scenery, when I started to wonder at what age we begin to prioritize life enjoyment and take that most important “time to play”.

Before it’s too late…

But that’s a topic for another discussion.

Today’s reflection is simple.

One thing I love about riding on motorcycles is how big and vast your surroundings can be.  It is a completely different experience than driving in a car.  Living on Long Island where things are generally flat, I was amazed when we rode through the Green Mountains in Vermont.  Driving up and down those roads with huge mountains on both sides of us was a most unforgettable and humbling experience.

This year at Americade, I could not help but marvel at the amazing, massive pine trees we drove past in Lake George.

I have a lot of time to think when I ride as a passenger on the back of Jim’s motorcycle and not on my own.  I couldn’t help but wonder if the residents who live in the beautiful area we drove through notice those amazing trees.  Or, because they live there, do they not notice them.

I wondered if they noticed the smells of the passing foliage that change as you drive down the roads.  I couldn’t help but wonder if they noticed, or, because they lived there, if they did not.

Or, perhaps, were they too busy running through their day that they forget to notice.

I’m sure that most of us rush around without really noticing the beautiful things we may encounter in our day.  Do we notice the sunshine?  Or, if it’s raining, do we notice the beauty of a reflection in a puddle?  Or the smell of fresh air?  Or a bird chirping?  Do we stop to take it in and to embrace the amazing beauty around us, or do we just pass by without noticing because of a priority to on our “to do” list?

I have come to realize that there is so much beauty in every moment of every day.

Now, as I have become more aware of my surroundings and the importance to enjoy life, I try very hard to remember to notice and appreciate things I encounter every day.

It was not always like this.  I truly had years where I was shocked to notice leaves on the trees and wondered when that might have happened.  And then there were the years I was shocked to notice the leaves had fallen off the trees; again, wondering how I could have possibly missed that.

I was just too busy to see.

It is a privilege to see the beauty in the world.  To stop, even for a moment, to soak it in; to catch a smile from a passerby; to smell the ocean air.

Personally, it is a privilege for me to notice something that I might have missed in those past years.

Look at the beauty in the world.  Embrace it.  Welcome it.

After all, it is time to enjoy life.  It is time to play.

Love, Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life.  Please see www.timetoplay.com for more information.

What is my biggest obstacle?

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Fire within meThe Time to Play Foundation’s BExtraordinary™ program was invited to be the benefactor for the 7-in-heaven Casino Night fundraiser held last night.  The goal of BExtraordinary™ is to remind and to inspire people to know they ARE extraordinary and to bolster self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth and self-love.  I thank Gail Adams very much for her support of the Foundation’s goal to provide resources to help a million people enjoy life and to Stacy Gertz, one of the foundation’s amazing and inspirational coaches, for attending the event with me.  #peoplehelpingpeople

During the event a gentleman, who later disclosed that he spoke around the world about critical thinking, asked us what was our biggest obstacle.

I don’t believe at this point in my life that I have any specific personal obstacles.  OK, well, I might have one… to make time for exercising lately, which I really don’t think is an obstacle, but more of a choice about priorities.

He then asked me if I made lists and goals.  Thanks to Jerry Siegel, an amazing member of the Foundation’s Business Advisory Board and an amazing coach, I have learned the importance of these functions to create more calmness and efficiency in my day.

He further asked me and Stacy if we feel positive every day.  I have learned that it is MY own choice, no matter what pops up, for how I let things affect me.  Something I truly have realized in almost 50 years of being on this earth is that I am the only person who can make me feel whatever way I want to feel.  So, if I feel sad, I choose to feel sad.  If I feel frustrated, I choose to feel frustrated.  An incredibly important thing I realized is that if I recognize I am feeling a certain way, I, myself, have the choice to allow the way I am feeling to continue or to change the way I am feeling.  Stacy agrees with me on this.  We believe that it’s most important to recognize how we’re feeling at any given point of the day and to make our own choice to change our direction.  I have learned, through working on the time to play project, that emotions are our guidance system.  Hey – I’m totally not 100% perfect on this.  And, sometimes I might actually choose to be in a mood that may be less than perfect.  BUT, something I’ve learned is that every day and every moment is a gift, and that it is our choice for how we want to use it.

So, back to obstacles… I think the creation of obstacles in our world is a really important topic. Anything can be an obstacle if we allow it, and, I believe we can create mountainous obstacles for ourselves or by ourselves.  In my professional world, people may perceive that I may face MANY obstacles.  The other day my husband and I spoke about the goals behind the Enjoy Life Community project.  He said he didn’t want to use the word “impossible”; but…

In my heart, I don’t think it is impossible to bring a community together so EVERYONE can work together to enjoy life;  so people can share the good work they are doing; so people can feel needed, wanted and included; so people don’t feel alone; so people can truly care about each other.  What’s the obstacle?  I don’t believe there really is an obstacle when the end goal is to create “hope” and “community”.

We can achieve anything if we work together.

On May 25, 1961, John F. Kennedy, in a speech to Congress, announced his goal to put a man on the moon.  On July 20, 1969, it happened.

Perhaps, bringing a community together is nothing short of putting a man on the moon.  Perhaps, looking at the statistics on life enjoyment, having people work together for the goal to enjoy life is nothing short of putting a man on the moon.

BUT, I believe there is no obstacle too large to be overcome through the power of people.  John F. Kennedy and his team certainly proved that.

I believe that it’s time for us to enjoy life…  It’s time to play.

Love,

Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life.  Please see www.timetoplay.com for more information.

Unparalleled Romance: Cruising the Islands of French Polynesia

French PolynesiaWhen you think of exotic and romantic cruise locations, what comes to mind? For many, the top answer is French Polynesia, best known for the islands of Tahiti and Bora Bora.  There arguably is no other place on Earth that epitomizes the ultimate romantic getaway.

These small islands feature perfect white-sand beaches with swaying palms, crystal-clear blue water, and gentle breezes.  The friendly people and easy-going lifestyle enable you to disconnect from your hectic life and reconnect with your significant other.  Cruising here is perfect for a honeymoon, a milestone anniversary, or to check off the ultimate get-away on your bucket list.

Departing from the East Coast of the U.S., you will need to plan for at least a 10 to 14 day holiday. You can either fly to Tahiti directly or fly to Hawaii and take a 3 day cruise to the islands.  While the islands are French protectorates, no worries, as everyone on board ship and on the islands also speaks English.

Instead of taking short-hop flights around the islands (many of which don’t have airports), cruising on a beautiful boutique-sized cruise ship gives you access to the smaller island’s harbors.

These modern ships also deliver beautiful accommodations in cabins overlooking the ocean, world-class food and service, and an endless choice of things to do, from relaxing poolside to playing slots in the casino.

For example, a relaxing 7-day itinerary could start in Tahiti where you might wish to walk the unspoiled beach, shop for local crafts, or embark on a dolphin-watching expedition. Your ship can then take you to the island of Huahine, known as the “Garden Island” from its lush rainforests. Here you can explore archaeological sites, enjoy snorkeling and scuba in the blue lagoon or picnic on the beach. On the island of Taha’a, you can take a launch over to a private white sand beach where you can swim, snorkel, kayak, or even learn Tahitian cooking secrets before a fabulous lunch on the beach. On world-renowned Bora Bora, you can experience what has been aptly called “the most beautiful island in the world.”  Explore the lagoon on a snorkeling tour, take an exciting helicopter ride, or get a thrill on a jet boat ride.

Turning back to home port, your ship can dock in the quiet harbor of Morrea, graced with spectacular mountain peaks, peaceful multi-hued lagoons, and palm-fringed beaches.

French PolynesiaYou can simply lounge on these beaches and decompress with your honey, or take advantage of an amazing array of activities.  We can pre-book activities with recommended local services and guides.  Like all destinations, there are the things most tourists do and see – and then there are the unique experiences that are known only to locals and experienced travel professionals, like us.  Allow me to open your eyes to just a few of these possibilities:


For photography buffs
: Don’t miss a unique and exclusive half-day guided photo tour of Moorea with an accomplished professional photographer who will offer photographic tips and interesting information about the island throughout the tour aboard a private, off-road vehicle visiting the interior of the island and the coast.

For an unforgettable romantic evening: Spend a night in one of the famous over-water bungalows that appear to “float” in the haze above a sparkling blue lagoon. You can admire the colorful underwater life of the lagoon through glass tabletops right in your room.

For adventure: Circumnavigate beautiful Bora Bora in a traditional outrigger canoe on a private island lagoon tour, complete with ukulele music and expert commentary on local culture, history, and nature. Enjoy stops in a coral garden where you can snorkel, visit tame stingrays, and observe black-tip sharks in their natural habitat.

Sound exciting?  Give us a call at Korte Travel @ 631-893-4232 and we will start planning your romantic, Polynesian getaway today!

CHRIS & SHEILA KORTE, ACC
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Fix It

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bump signEvery time I pass a sign like this, I wonder what stops us from just “fixing it”.  This idea is something that I believe can be carried to all areas of our lives.

How many things in your own life need “fixing”?  Perhaps we add “it” to our list promising to do “it” later.  There are always priorities and things that become more important or that will take precedence.

As I sit here writing this, many of my “to do’s” are popping into our mind.  I find there are many personal “to do’s” for my list like making time to exercise, or that appointment for the doctor or dentist, or emailing back a colleague or potential client, or there’s always that list of chores…

But, like the sign, I also think of the “to do’s” that we’ as a community, could work together to address that could improve quality of life for us all.

One of my biggest pet peeves is the studies that are done that just tell us information with no plan of correction.  Recently I read an article about the hardest places to live in the United States in the NY Times (http://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/26/upshot/where-are-the-hardest-places-to-live-in-the-us.html). What frustrates me about an article such as this is that it’s great someone took the time to collect this data, but what are we actually doing about it?  When you look at the map in this article, it is evident that there are more states that appear to be “doing worse” than “doing better”.  I can only hope that someone, somewhere, saw this article and has started a discussion in their community.

I find so many things we do to be in a reactive manner or in a crisis situation.  Working in a quality improvement mindset for much of my career makes me see  all types of areas where we should do something – together—to make things change.  I think that’s the key word.  Together…  Together we definitely get further faster.  Together…  Many hands make light work.

What’s happening in your community?  What is your wish list?  Who needs help?  I find that many times we know there are issues or problems but think, perhaps, the issue is too big; we just have no time to address it; someone else will take care of it; or how many times have we just thought “it’s just a shame” and then go back to whatever we were doing.  I have found, again and again, that people don’t pay attention to stuff that doesn’t directly affect them.  But, guess what.  In some way, everything eventually affects all of us.

Not one of us can single handedly “save the world”, but together… imagine what we can do.  I believe it’s time for us to band together to take action; not wait for others to do it; not wait for legislation to change it; and especially not just be a Facebook warrior.

This is the big idea behind the Enjoy Life Community Project, a way for us to work together in our own communities to make things change – for the better – for all of us – so we can all enjoy life.   I believe every one of us has something to offer that can help someone else.  Nothing is insignificant or too small.  We have all had experience or have some type of expertise to make change happen.

People helping people; Collaboration = success:  These are the principles that drive the time to play foundation.

It’s time to enjoy life.

Love,

Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life.  Please see www.timetoplay.com for more information.

Why Do You Do What You Do?

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why do you do what you doIn May my son Nicholas graduated from our community college with a degree that will help him in his pursuit of a position as a fire inspector.  In a community college there are a variety of students. Those who just graduated from high school and enroll hoping to find the spark of what type of career they will pursue throughout their lives; those who are returning students who may have never had an opportunity to attend college; those who are pursuing new careers or skill sets.  There are many reasons a person may attend college, take classes, and learn more.

As part of the graduation ceremony, one of the speakers asked a question… “Why do you do what you do”?  He said he had pondered this question as part of an application he was completing for a four year college he was applying to.  He said it took him three days looking at a blank computer screen before he could come up with an answer.

Stop and think about that for a while.  Why do you do what you do?

It’s a defining inquiry for each and every one of us.  Why do we do what we do?  It’s a question that could provide us with a root cause assessment that can answer the WHY behind our actions, purpose, vision, and more.

Why do you do what you do?  Are you happy, healthy, have money, or a work life balance (this is the time to play philosophy, by the way).  Do you love your life?  Do you love your job?

Answering the question of why you do what you do can give you the right path, the next step.

Do you do what you do because you are fueled by love and passion?  Or is your answer something like that you do what you do because you just need to get by; or just need to make the bills; or because you feel obligated.

Are your actions fueled by love, passion, purpose, or by hatred? Are your reasons for doing what you do good and right reasons or are they fueled by wrong reasons?  Is what you do helping make this world a little better than when you got here?

Look inside. 

WE are the only ones who make the decisions on our own behaviors.

Why do you do what you do?  Does it bring you pleasure or pain?

If you answer pain, how can you make a change?

I believe EVERYTHING we do is a choice.

I am so proud of my Nicholas and so grateful that he had a memorable graduation day.  I was grateful this question was part of the graduation ceremony and I hope that those present, not just the graduates, but everyone, actually listened and heard what the speaker asked.

I hope that they not only heard the question but took it with them to think about.  I hope they use it or have already used it to make decisions on how to move forward or a change in what they are doing in their life; to keep going in the same path or not.

Every day is a new opportunity.

Why do we do what we do?  Life is short.  Choose to do what makes you love life.  It’s time to Enjoy YOUR Life.  It’s Time to Play.

Love, Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life.  Please see www.timetoplay.com for more information.