Posts

Hey, it's Friday. . . Again

, , , , ,

Is it Time to Play?

So, my friend Phil posted on his facebook today:  “its Friday and going to work again…again…again”.  Well, that’s why I started to work on www.timetoplay.com in the first place!  That’s my sentiments, exactly!

Do you feel like you’re part of the “rat race” on a treadmill?  Me too!  Each day you wake up, yell at the kids to hurry up or they’re going to be late, rush to work, work all day, come home exhausted, cook dinner, clean up, fall asleep in front of the TV ( I swear I used to make fun of my mother and father for doing that!), get into bed, and start all over the next day.  And, before you even blink, it seems, the whole week is gone and it’s Friday… again.  And it’s the same thing every day, and every week, and you try to squeak out a fun or enjoyable experience somewhere along the line, but it seems those times are far and few between.

I’ve been working on www.timetoplay.com for over a year now.  Why?  Because I just haven’t had the time to actually finish it.  Ironic, right?  But, we have a big week coming up and I’m going to push over the weekend to make sure it’s ready to go.  Why?  Because the working people of our Country need it.  www.timetoplay.com’s goal is to provide resources for people to have a better life.  To have professionals provide words of wisdom and tips to make the life of the “everyday working slob” easier.  So we can enjoy life.

What is quality of life?  Do you have one?  Do you know what would give your life quality? Do you enjoy yourself?  Do you have time to pursue the things that give you happiness, passion, make you feel alive?  Have you changed things in your life so you could be happy?

I’d like to start interviewing people to tell their stories.  To talk about the things they do, things they love, lessons they’ve learned, things they want to do.  www.timetoplay.com is a people helping people project — maybe something they read will help them change their life a little so they can have quality of life.

Call me at 631-331-2675 or email: doreen@djamesmarketing.com (this is the best email to use because it goes to my phone) so we can talk.  Or let me know of someone you think would be perfect for me to talk to.

Something I’ve learned — thinking about or talking about what makes you happy. . . makes you happy!

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Doreen

Maybe There's Something to a Relative That Steals the Limelight —

, , ,

A relative of mine, I’ll call her “Sue”, has a need to feel important.  I know we all have one in our families.  A person who has to shine, be loud, draw attention, drink too much, etc.  It took me my whole life to realize why Sue acts the way she does.

Sue has had a hard life.  I know she felt her parents favored her sibling, which was really a terrible way to live growing up.  I know she felt she was never good enough.  Her old stories would come out once in a while and she used to comment on how her sibling could do no wrong in the eyes of her parents.  I don’t think she has ever let it go.

Sue’s husband was unfaithful.  That is probably one of the worst things, besides an illness, that you would have to go through.  In seeing her experience this horrible situation, I told my husband, before we were married, that if he felt he had to cheat on me to let me know, that I would release him from our relationship rather than go through what Sue experienced.

Sue remarried.  I know her relationship with her new husband is good some of the time, but he has moments when he is truly unkind.  I also think that he values hunting and watching sports on TV more than spending time with her, which is really sad.

So Sue looks for ways to make herself happy.  She shops and she bakes.  Baking has become an obsession.  She makes cookies, chocolate or cakes and brings them to family functions, work and parties.  When she brings the baked goods to an occasion she has to show off the dessert — even at inconvenient times.  I never could understand it.  You could be pouring out a pot of boiling water and Sue would be there with a cake in your face telling you to check it out and to see how beautiful it was, etc.  When Sue bakes, the baked goods MUST be the center of attention, no matter what the occasion — even during a Sweet 16 or a wedding, when baked goods really should not be all that important.

I never really thought much about it except that it would annoy me to the point where I would become frustrated and angry.  I knew Sue meant well and had worked hard to create whatever she baked, which made me feel even worse that I was frustrated and angry over the whole attention seeking situation in the first place.

I have been reading a lot and things have become a little clearer to me lately.  A book I read, The Answers, by Karen Garvey, talks about people doing the best they can at the present time.  The fact that I could not figure out why baked goods had to be such a big deal annoyed me.

Today the lightbulb finally went off.

I don’t think Sue has ever felt important.  Not in her whole life.  Not to her parents, her first husband, or her second husband.  She needs to feel important.  And she feels important when she shows off her baked goods.

Think of others you might know that buy flashy cars, fancy clothing, maybe things they cannot afford, or someone who does things that are shocking.  Why?  I guess they are looking for something.  Maybe they’re trying to find a way to fill a void.

So I realize that, sometimes, we need to look a little deeper into why someone is doing something to understand.  You know Newton’s Law, to every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction — even though this isn’t physics related, I think this could apply here.  Sue’s feelings cause her actions.

acknowledging why she behaves the way she does will allow me to modify my reaction.  Without much effort, I know I can make Sue feel important and shine.  And, maybe, one day Sue will realize she is important and enable herself to be happy.

###

www.timetoplay.com — resources for a better life.  Hey – We’ve Built It!  Now we need you to use it!  Post your clubs, events, stories, businesses and more!  Find resources on  how to get happy, healthy, have money and get out fo the office faster.  Check it out!