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Foster Bold Dreams, Bolder Actions

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I‘ve been reading The Everyday Entrepreneur written by Rob Basso.  Chapter 5 was one in which I found myself reflecting on things I have been working on or thinking about, and wanted to share.

The chapter started off with pensive statements about what sets a WILDLY successful person apart from others: “Imagination, a solid plan of action and determination to break down barriers” (p. 71). Rob noted that the challenge to achieve is the main difference between true entrepreneurs and complacent business people. Hmm. This is something I need to reflect on. In my life I was complacent to get a job, to feel secure, to get a check. There was a course I recently took where they used an acronym for JOB: Just Over Broke. Interesting, right?

So, for most of my life I played it safe, had my 9-5 (or 6 or 7 and weekends) job and that was it. Do you have something in your heart you want to achieve? I know I do. It’s a burning, energetic feeling – and it drives me forward. This brings me to the “no regrets” / follow your heart sentiment noted by Ken Davenport on page 80, where he was headed to study law in college but went into theatre instead, “he decided to study acting so that he would have no regrets later in life about what could have been.” Can we all do this? Do we have the luxury? In my case, no. Early on I had to get a full time job to support my family. I was 17 at the time. But, my path seems to have led me to where I am now, to a life I believe has been filled with achievement. I have learned things I know I would never have learned if things went differently in the beginning. And now I’m using what I’ve learned to propel what’s in my heart. It’s never too late.

What is one to do if you have a passion, if you have an idea, if you have a desire? Well, Rob did cover that, too! Pretty much what I’ve been doing working on the www.timetoplay.com project – on page 83 he talks of Mr. Scott Snibbe of Snibbe Interactive who had to fit his artistic pursuits around his schoolwork first, and then his professional career, while developing his company. In off times you can make it happen. For me, I rarely watch TV. I find myself thinking and planning and researching when I do have down time to make things happen. I “squish” it in. Remember the “NO REGRETS” statement? That’s one of the goals for www.timetoplay.com. To bring people resources so they will have no regrets. To remind them to enjoy life and to learn what they need to know so they can. In this case, following your dreams and doing what you love is one thing, maybe the most important thing, in the world to a person so they can enjoy life.

I know so many people who hate what they do in their career but become “STUCK”. They wake up every day and are exhausted, stressed or frustrated because they have to go to work. Can you change this? Maybe you can by fitting in some type of time to make it happen. . .

Rob’s Entrepreneurial Insight on p. 83 is “Find the space to nurture and grow your new pursuits”. Maybe it’s not to become an entrepreneur and start your own business, but maybe it is to study law, dance, guitar. . . something that you’ve wanted to do and think about all the time. Do you have something in your heart that you wish or want to do?

Do it.

Make it happen.

Rob also included an interview from David Becker, president of Philippe Becker Design, Inc. who noted that, “human nature [is] to trash new ideas”. Don’t let that stop you, either. In my experience, there are a lot of people out there who are so negative towards change and will push you down. Advice? Rob notes that you need people who support you to surround yourself with and perseverance. “I’ve got nothing to lose. . . what’s the worst that can happen? We won’t get the business. Or the best? We will get the business. But I can’t be afraid of what might happen.” David Becker, p. 82.

Onward and upward!

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The Power of Now — a journey to discovery

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Don’t know if you have had the time to join in / read the book discussion re: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, but I’m up to page 65.  Here’s what I’m thinking about so far. . .

There are a lot of thought provoking statements in the pages I’ve read.  And, I start to wonder about how I do think and the “chatter” which has brought me so many good ideas and breakthroughs.  So where do you draw the line of what is good or bad chatter?  How do you turn it on or off as needed? Hopefully as I read more I’ll learn more I’ll figure this out.

Here’s an amazing, thought provoking paragraph (page 46-47):  “As long as the egoic mind is running your life, you cannot truly be at ease; you cannot be at peace or fulfilled except for brief intervals when you obtained what you wanted, when a craving has just been fulfilled.  Since the ego is a derived sense of self, it needs to identify with external things.  It needs to be both defended and fed constantly.  The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, personal and family history, belief systems, and often also political, nationalistic, racial, religious and other collective identifications. None of these is you . . . The ego’s needs are endless.  It feels vulnerable and threatened and so lives in a state of fear and want”.

Wow.  I totally saw myself in this.  Did you?  The pursuit of career, completing my masters, my job.  These things defined me, pushed me.  If I had a good day at work, I was in a good mood.  Bad day?  Bad mood.  HOWEVER, at what point do you need motivation to pursue a “life”, and at what point are you kind of a hump of flesh (very visual, huh?) sitting on a couch?  BUT, the state of fear and want sentence makes you think, too.  Is this pursuit what’s causing us so much stress?  What do we really need or want?  Is that what we need to evaluate to have a good quality of life?  At what point do we not strive?  I’m still reading, so, hopefully this will be answered.

The author continued to talk about the past, the future vs. the now.  The life situations we are dealing with, not the LIFE.  I’ll leave you with this:  (page 63) “Your life situation exists in time.  Your life is now.  Your life situation is mind-stuff.  Your life is real”.  The author notes that we need to realize that there are no problems, only situations to be dealt with now, or to be left alone and accepted as part of the present moment until they change or can be dealt with, and that problems are mind-made and need time to survive.

Hmmmm —

Book Discussion continues:  Go to Book Discussion

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Every Action We Take Provides a Reward or a Consequence

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So, it has taken 45 years for me to start figuring things out.  I guess that’s better than never.

I have always advocated being proactive.  During my corporate career one of my job functions was quality improvement.  That is what I base our business model on now.  For our company I have written a statement:  “Everything you do in your organization to achieve success requires identification of goals, analysis, strategy and planning”.   This I advocate for our clients, but, something I realize I never really implemented in my life.  I feel that I’ve mostly utilized the “shoot from the hip” philosophy, just being happy to get through each day.

Life a continuous learning process, and I have learned some things recently.  All brought about as I search for meaning in development of timetoplay.com and through talking to people.  My goal for the site?  How can it help the most amount of people have a quality of life.  I really am working on it.

Something new I’ve realized (although it is obvious) but didn’t really put into practical operation is every action we take provides a reward or a consequence.

Let’s think about this — both in business and in life.

In business, are you achieving?  If not, what actions are you taking?  Are you being proactive?  Have you evaluated the past to find out what can be improved?  Have you set goals?  Have you planned?  Again, what actions are you taking?  What will be the consequences or potential rewards of those actions?  If no action is taken and you go on with the same old, same old, what consequences will there be?  I can’t tell you how many people I’ve talked to that wound up not implementing changes to make their business work and wound up out of business.  It is sad.

In life are you happy?  If not, why?  Did you ever really stop to think what will make you happy?  Did you ever try to make a plan or set a goal to acquire what will make you happy?  What have I realized lately?  I have to make it happen.  I have to make the change.  I have to set the goal.  I cannot wait.  If I don’t make it happen, it is not going to happen.  One of my friends was unhappy in her marriage.  On the outside she had the perfect life.  A wonderful house, wonderful kids, etc.  But she wasn’t happy.  She is going through a divorce and she is so happy.  She is free.  She has found a man that loves her.  SHE made it happen. 

In things like relationships, lateness, job satisfaction, weight loss, exercise, procrastination, behavior (being crabby), etc.  . . . the list is endless. . .  Every action (or no action) we take provides a reward or a consequence.  What changes need to be implemented.  What actions do/should you take?  What is the reward?  What is the consequence of an action or no action.  No actions may provide no results.  Bad actions may provide bad consequences.

Let’s take those good actions.  Proactive actions.  Let’s get that reward.

News from a recovering Boring-A-Holic

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So, the big day has come.  The Birthday.  45!  So fast the time goes. 

What accomplishments did I achieve?  (Check all that apply . . .)

  • Education: a masters degree and board certification – check
  • Kids: 3 children, ages 19, 16 and 15 – check
  • Husband: almost 23 years!  – check
  • Job: started my own company 5 years ago after working in corporate for 19 years – check
  • House: needs to be cleaned for the holidays, but yes, got one – check
  • Pets: a dog and a fish and a frog – check
  • Car:  bought a fun jeep! – check
  • Happiness:  I do believe I have this – most days, anyway – check
  • Health:  I’m certainly pretty happy with the health of myself and my family – check’
  • Friends and family:  I am lucky to have these wonderful people in my life – check

What else could anyone ask for?  Not much, I guess.  The only think missing is the “fun” I have feel I haven’t had — the ability to step away from my desk and enjoy the beauty that surrounds me.  The need to take the time to talk to my kids, take that walk, go to a movie.  The mindset to be “light” and “free”.

My answer?  My midlife crisis project, the development of the www.timetoplay.com site, and my mission for it to be a resource for people, an assistance and an ability for them to find a quality of life while I, also, pursue the things that will additionally make me happy.

Although I don’t know who wrote it, I wanted to share a quote — “Life is not a journey to the grave with intentions of arriving safely in a pretty well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out and loudly proclaiming … WOW! What a ride!”

It’s something to aspire to, and my intention, although not to hurt myself (I don’t like pain) for the next chapter in my life.

Timetoplay.com Thought of the Day: Work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt, and dance like nobody is watching! – Mark Twain

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Work like you don’t need the money, love like you’ve never been hurt, and dance like nobody is watching! – Mark Twain

Hmmm.  What does this say?  Love life.  Love what you do.  Be happy.

Is this easy in today’s society?  Not so much.  Negativity abounds in the news.  Financial pressures keep people tied to jobs they hate.  Obligations keep you prisoner, competing for the little time each day holds.

Reevaluation is key.  It is the goal of www.timetoplay.com to encourage people to find a better way of life.  We all search.  We just need to start somewhere.

Timetoplay.com is looking for contributors and content to help people achieve a quality of life.

So, what to do?  www.timetoplay.com does not expect a miracle.  Start with a “pledge to play” — we ask that you take 10 minutes a day to do something you love.  10 minutes.  Maybe that’s doable.  Is today the day?