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Looking at Achievements – Here's to 2011!

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So. . . 2011 is here.  We have bucket lists.  We have goals.

As a newbie to Facebook, I have noticed people posting when they are working on something or when they have finally accomplished “it”.  I think that is one thing Facebook has given us.  A way to spread an accomplishment to more than just immediate friends or family.

There are those who are writing or have finished writing books.  I didn’t realize how many people I “know” that wanted to write a book or had written one.  It is pretty amazing — they have taken words of wisdom, something they love, etc. and put it down to share with others.  They have made “a mark”.

For others, speaking engagements, publicity, published articles — sorta 10 seconds (or hopefully longer) of fame. 

First thoughts — wow. . . how could they have done that?  How did they get contacted?  How did they get lucky to “make it”.

But, then, thoughts of sincere and heartfelt awe — they worked hard, maybe for years, to get a little recognition that they absolutely deserved.  Good for them!  Get far!!!!!  Ride the wave of success!

I feel proud that they achieved what they set out to do.  More power to them!  It is amazing to know that they actually achieved what they wanted to do.  They didn’t just say “I should have” or “I should do _______”.  They did it.  They achieved.

Don’t just think it or say it.  Do it.

I hope we all accomplish something this year that we can celebrate.  Make 2011 a good one.  I wish you much happiness, prosperity, success and achievement.

Happy New Year,

Doreen

News from a recovering Boring-A-Holic

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So, the big day has come.  The Birthday.  45!  So fast the time goes. 

What accomplishments did I achieve?  (Check all that apply . . .)

  • Education: a masters degree and board certification – check
  • Kids: 3 children, ages 19, 16 and 15 – check
  • Husband: almost 23 years!  – check
  • Job: started my own company 5 years ago after working in corporate for 19 years – check
  • House: needs to be cleaned for the holidays, but yes, got one – check
  • Pets: a dog and a fish and a frog – check
  • Car:  bought a fun jeep! – check
  • Happiness:  I do believe I have this – most days, anyway – check
  • Health:  I’m certainly pretty happy with the health of myself and my family – check’
  • Friends and family:  I am lucky to have these wonderful people in my life – check

What else could anyone ask for?  Not much, I guess.  The only think missing is the “fun” I have feel I haven’t had — the ability to step away from my desk and enjoy the beauty that surrounds me.  The need to take the time to talk to my kids, take that walk, go to a movie.  The mindset to be “light” and “free”.

My answer?  My midlife crisis project, the development of the www.timetoplay.com site, and my mission for it to be a resource for people, an assistance and an ability for them to find a quality of life while I, also, pursue the things that will additionally make me happy.

Although I don’t know who wrote it, I wanted to share a quote — “Life is not a journey to the grave with intentions of arriving safely in a pretty well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out and loudly proclaiming … WOW! What a ride!”

It’s something to aspire to, and my intention, although not to hurt myself (I don’t like pain) for the next chapter in my life.

Aging. . . and appreciation

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For Thanksgiving we had the pleasure of spending the day with my husband Jim’s Aunt and Uncle.  Both in their late 80’s, and married 63 years, they have been in failing health recently.  And, not realizing it yesterday, I woke up this morning knowing I learned a valuable lesson from them.

A few years ago I had the pleasure of working in a nursing home.  My goal while I worked there was to help people have a great quality of life.  I always appreciated the residents as people with amazing history.  But, after spending time with our Aunt and Uncle, I realize the residents were only shells of who they once were.  Still functioning, still alive, but not the same.  For the residents in the nursing home we were their caretakers, and they were dependent on us.

So, yesterday, while spending time with them, in our Aunt and Uncle’s home, I realized they were so lucky.  Lucky to have been in such good health for so long, lucky to be together for 63 years.  Lucky to be independent, which is truly a gift. 

And, not that I didn’t see it before, but it became increasingly apparent how finite life is.  In their case, at 87, how many good years are left?  How many more years can they live on their own, cherishing each other and the precious time they have together?

That same question does go for each and every one of us, too — every day is a gift.  Did you ever see the movie, “The Grinch Who Stole Christmas“, when his heart melted and he found appreciation?  That is how I feel.  With this Thanksgiving, I found appreciation.  For my family, for my husband, for my children.  I realize how important it is to recognize their individuality.  So, maybe my kids’ grades aren’t perfect, but they are healthy and happy and pursuing their way in life.  They are their own people, truly individuals, sorta fun to be around, and I am proud of them. 

Life is a learning process.  I feel a little sad that it took this long for the “wakeup call”.  And I appreciate my visit with Jim’s aging relatives to help me along.

Do I expect to relish in this appreciation every day?  I’m sure not — I’m sure things will get me down some days, or the work stress will take precious time away.  But I will strive to stop myself if I become overwhelmed, or exhausted, and reflect on the good things in my life. 

My goal?  To smile.  My desire?  Just to have a nice day.  Every day. 

And, my hope for you, too.

something to ponder…

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Time to play tip of the day: “If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page!” – Mark Houlahan

Isn’t that the beauty of waking up to a new day, everyday? On Monday you could have spilled coffee on your white shirt driving to work, was late for a conference meeting, got a lashing from your boss, forgot your wallet at home and couldn’t get something for lunch, sat in traffic to come home to a pipe burst. But on Tuesday it is a brand new day to start all over again!

Visit my website to read my past “Tip of the Day” at my website www.timetoplay.com

Don’t forget to take time in your day to play,

Dor