If there’s one thing that parenthood has bestowed on us, it’s the desire to be a better person. Suddenly with a pair (or pairs) of little eyes watching you closely, you become more aware of your habits (good and bad), your diet, your manners, and your temper – because someone is learning from you. Well, there’s a biggie that most of us haven’t given much thought to: money. For those of you with small ones, consider this time as good behavior training because even if your kids are too little to notice now, recent research indicates that children as young as 8 are ready to learn about money; and, the greatest impact on their knowledge is not any course they can take (if you can even find one) but on the behavior they observe at home. The study went on to say that behavior modification in older children is difficult; the key is to catch them early. So even though many of you have younger children, it’s never too early to get your household on track. This way, the practices your children adopt will be healthy ones that will come naturally to you. These simple first steps will lay a solid foundation:
When we have dessert, it’s served after dinner – When a child sees that Mom or Dad doesn’t always immediately gratify their retail purchasing urge, it teaches that not everything you want is needed, or some things are worth the wait. With toddlers, the currency can be giving up the bottle or diapers to “buy” something that they want. Having older children partake in saving for a portion of a pricey purchase can help teach them about setting goals and working toward achieving them, as well. In addition, they will start to understand the sacrifices you make to afford your lifestyle.
Make sure your eyes aren’t bigger than your stomach – Showing children that bills are paid in full and on time sends them the signal that they need to keep a handle on how much they spend. As you write the checks, let them know what you are doing and why you need to pay it on time. If carrying credit card debt is something they don’t see in life, it makes them less likely to abuse the cards themselves. This lesson is the single most important one to your future financial well-being.
If …. Then … Lessons – Show your kids the power of choices and the consequences to get across budgeting basics (e.g., “If we buy this flat screen TV, we won’t have enough for food.”).
Do as I Do – There are no greater imitators than kids. If they see you balancing the checkbook (even though they are not sure what that is), they will grow up knowing that is part of an adult routine. As they get older, you can even enlist their help in calling out the check numbers.
Make Saving a Game – When they are really young, nothing is more fun than the clink of change in a piggy bank, or a change sorter. As they get older, encourage kids to put away a portion of any gift money they get, as well as dedicating a portion to gifting. When they are old enough to get a bank book of their own, take them down to the bank. It will be a day they remember.
Story telling – Do you have a family member who overcame adversity (such as coming to this country with no money) only to live a successful life? Let them know that Grandpa started up his business with nothing in his pocket. Better yet, let him share the story. Kids love to hear true stories, and they’ll be better off for having heard these words of wisdom.
Starting early in their lives will make all the difference, and it will be time well spent for all of you. Remember: They are watching.
Anyone who has a child getting ready to start college for the first time probably has a list of concerns a mile long. Among the worries is the handling of money. Whether your child is going away or staying home, there is a real opportunity to start your son or daughter on his or her first journey into financial responsibility. While it might be hard to look at your “baby” as an adult handling money, there’s no time like the present to learn these important lessons. These tips will help your child get off to a strong start. 1. Consider what income sources are available. Will your child save money over the summer or have a job while at school? Will you be supplying extra money? 2. Decide on who is paying for what. Sit down and be clear about what you are paying for, and what you are not paying for. This will allow your child to ballpark what his/her expenses might be. Go shopping together so your child can get a real sense of what things cost; then put together a rough budget. 3. Look at ways to shave the expenses. For example: Does your child really need a car? Is public transportation an option? Can used books and supplies be bought on line or at the book store? Can a roommate share the costs of a refrigerator or rug? 4. Make a final weekly budget. Based on the figures from the three previously mentioned points, put together what can realistically be spent each week and allow for 5% savings as a cushion. I recommend a weekly budget, because it is a big task to stay balanced for a whole month; breaking the task into a series of smaller ones may be more manageable. 5. Use cards with caution. Explain how debit cards work. There may be fees associated with them and, if lost, they can pose a danger to the account if not reported promptly. Using ATMs at another bank can get expensive, as well. Credit cards also require caution. Show your child why finance charges are not an option because they make the cost of purchasing goods much greater. If credit cards are used, have him/her keep the minimum low, and keep spending below the minimum. 6. Record keep. Encourage your child to always balance the checkbook. All transactions should be entered in the checking account ledger (cash/debit card transactions, checks written/deposited, and credit card purchases). This recordkeeping should be done immediately, and not when it hits the bank/credit card statement, so that your child always knows what actual funds are available. These steps will lay the foundation for good money habits for years to come.
I gave a presentation to a group of sixth graders and asked an innocent question, “Who here earns money?” As I expected there were those who mowed lawns, babysat, shoveled snow, folded laundry, etc. to earn cash. These kids weren’t “working papers” ready, and they took great pride in earning their own money – and not too surprisingly, they seemed to be more discriminating on how they spent it, and had a solid understanding of what was an item or service that they needed versus something they wanted.
A pretty little girl sat with her arms crossed and called out that her parents didn’t want her to work; they wanted her to focus on her studies. I smiled. Isn’t earning money, working hard and being responsible a lesson unto itself? Isn’t that more valuable than memorizing and regurgitating some meaningless facts for the short-term gratification of a good grade, only to have this cycle start all over again? She wasn’t done talking, not by a long shot – and it was very revealing, indeed.
“Is food a need or a want?” I asked – a ridiculously easy question.
“A need!” they shouted.
“Now is Starbucks a need or a want?”
“My Mom can’t live without coffee!” someone called out.
“Me either,” I admitted, “But is paying $20 a week for it a luxury, a want?”
That’s when my little friend piped up again, “Starbucks is absolutely a need! I have to have Starbucks!”
“How convenient,” I thought, “You get to have your expensive coffee and someone else pays.”
It’s tempting to make life so good for your kids that you actually thwart their progress. There is great wisdom in the old proverb, “Give a man a fish, you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” So when is “helping” really not so helpful? When is helping actually hurting?
Keeping your kids isolated from the realities of life doesn’t stop the responsibilities from coming; it only retards their ability to respond appropriately to the challenges. Again my little friend had a nugget to offer up, “My parents don’t want me to get a job until after I graduate college.” Perhaps I went a tad over the line here, but my reply was simple, “Do you think it would be helpful or harmful if your Mom said to you: ‘Honey, don’t bother learning to read. I will go to college with you and read out loud to you every night from your textbooks. Don’t worry your pretty little head about it.’ Finally, she was silent. The other kids thought that idea was dumb or worse, embarrassing to have mom reading to them in college.
When you deprive a child of rising to the occasion so you can look like a hero, it is harmful. The message can easily be construed as the world is your servant; or worse, you are incapable of handling this yourself. All the children who earned money had one thing in common: confidence. They were excited to share that they could be trusted to be responsible and to do a good job. The end result, of course, is that they treated that money differently than if it was a handout. If we are to hope that they will be motivated, productive and responsible with their money – shouldn’t we start these good habits as soon as they are able to assert themselves and earn some money? Now that would be more helpful than making sure that they memorized their way through school, don’t you think?
You’ve heard it before: Don’t let emotions get in the way of business. Well the adage holds true for investing, as well – probably even more so. It seems easy enough to do, but when you see the value of your savings falling like a botched Martha Stewart soufflé, your first instinct may be to sell, sell sell! But acting out of emotion can often be the worst thing you could do when it comes to investing. Here are some tips to prevent sabotaging your financial well-being.
Make sure you have a specific financial goal (or goals) with a specific time frame in mind. Sounds pretty basic, right? It may be, but the trick is to really give this some serious thought. Very rarely are you saving for just one thing at a time. Most of us are saving for retirement, future college costs, and near-term goals like buying a new car or house, a home remodeling project, or planning a big vacation. The way you invest for a short-term goal is very different from the strategies you would use to meet a goal that may be 30 years away, like retirement. Long-term goals require growth provided from stocks (equities), because you will need the money to outpace inflation. If you put your retirement savings into CDs, after thirty years, your investment would be worth less than what you put in because inflation would have reduced its purchasing power. Short-term goals require stability, because you plan on using the money soon. If the stock market has a set-back, you can loose a substantial amount of your investment in an eye-blink. Therefore, CDs, money market, or even short-term bonds would be a good choice for a shorter investment time frame. When I hear people say they want to make as much money as fast as they can – they need to know the reality is that the inverse holds true for that investment, as well. If an investment can move up in value rapidly, it is volatile and it could just as easily (and swiftly) move in the opposite direction.
Diversify your investments. Yes, stocks are for growth and bonds, money markets and CDs are for income, but having a mix of investments can really protect your investments from times when the stock market may be volatile, or times when rates on CDs or money markets are anemic. Alternative investments, as a group might be risky, but when added to a portfolio (and combined in very specific percentages) can actually reduce a portfolio’s overall volatility.
Start as early as you can, and invest regularly. The earlier you begin investing for your long-term goals, the better, because time is on your side. As your investment grows, you can take advantage of compounding, which is when you take whatever income or gains from an investment and buy more shares. Investing regularly is another good strategy, because it helps remove emotions from investing. By treating investing like a bill to pay every month, you stop thinking about how else you could spend the money. Over the years, the money adds up and one day you look at your balance, and you can’t believe how painless it was to actually save. Most mutual fund companies will even link payment to your bank so every month your bank account will automatically be debited and you won’t ever need to remember to write out and mail a check. There is also another big advantage to making regular fixed investments every month: it is called dollar-cost averaging. Because there may be some months when the price of a fund is lower than other times, you will buy more shares, and during the months when the price is higher you will buy fewer shares. The price, in effect, gets averaged out over time. It helps protect you from sinking all of your money into an investment on a day that may happen to be a high. Yes, this also means that you will not be buying on the absolute lowest day, either. But, since the market is impossible to time, this is the most logical (unemotional) way to invest, not to mention it puts an element of discipline into your commitment to invest.
The markets can be fickle, but don’t you be. A well constructed plan needs to be followed out. If you shift your plan as the market moves, you will forever chase performance and be a reactive investor. Holding firm to your plan isn’t always easy, but deviating from it can prove fatal.
Remember, like most things, the planning is the hardest part. Once you’ve determined what your goals are, and how much time you have to reach these goals then you can begin selecting the right investments. Then, you can let your money work for you.
As of April 2014, the average tax refund for is $2,831, according to the IRS. While it might be tempting to use this windfall for something fun, like a vacation to someplace warm and exotic, there are better ways to spend your refund that can help improve your finances for years to come. Yes, you can call me a kill-joy, but delaying gratification can have its rewards in bigger and better ways, like being able to buy your dream home sooner than expected, or being able to take that once in a lifetime vacation that you never thought you would be able to afford, or retiring early. Laying a solid foundation first will enable you to then focus on the perks in life. So, before you call your travel agent and book a trip to Cancun consider these three less exciting, but more rewarding ways to spend your tax refund (if you’re not getting a tax refund, look to address these items as you get some spare cash):
Get Rid of Credit Card Debt. Even if your bill is bigger than your refund, it pays to get rid of as much debt as quickly as possible. If your card charges 18% interest and you pay off all or some of that debt, it is the same as if you earned 18% on your money. Remember to see which cards carry the highest rates. Pay those off first and stop using all cards. If you absolutely must charge, make sure you use a card carrying the lowest rates.
Add to Your Emergency Fund. It is recommended that you have six months’ worth of income stashed away in a liquid account (bank account, money market, etc.) in case of illness, or unemployment. In the event of an emergency, how long could you go on paying your bills? If your account seems thin, beef it up.
Fund Your Investment Accounts. As part of your monthly budget, it is recommended that 10% of your take home pay goes towards savings. In addition to adding to your emergency fund and other general savings, this 10% can be satisfied in a number of ways:
Fund retirement through an employer-sponsored plan. This has enormous benefits, because the investment often times can be made with pre-tax dollars (lowering your income taxes) and the investment can grow without the effect of taxes, provided you withdraw the money in retirement. Also, many employers help you save toward retirement by matching a percentage of your contributions. That is called free money – and it’s hard to find.
Fund an IRA or a Roth IRA (contributions can be made for non-working spouses). Again, tax-deferred growth is a key benefit here. Check with your tax advisor if you qualify for a Roth IRA, as it has unique benefits such as tax-free withdrawals, and the ability to withdraw for reasons other than retirement, such a first-time home purchase, or to meet college costs. Contribution limits are $5,500 ($6,500 if you are at least 50 years old). Contributions for 2014 can be made until April 15, 2015 (for both IRAs and Roth IRAs).
Add to your child’s college savings. Whether you open a specific college savings account, such as a Coverdell account or a 529 Plan, or opt for a more general account, such a mutual fund or savings bond, you can take an important step in securing your child’s future.
If it makes it easier to get started, think of it this way: you wouldn’t give your kids dessert before they had dinner. This list is dinner, and there’s no telling what kinds of dessert await you if you take care of this very necessary business first.
My husband was up to something. He was pounding away at the computer and printing like a madman. When I didn’t hear the whir of the printer, there was the distinct sound of the three-hole punch chewing its way through paper.
“I’m working on something,” is all he would say. It seemed to excite him, this project. I wondered what it was.
When “it” appeared, it wasn’t impressive looking. It was a plain white three-ring binder.
“Open it,” is all he said, smiling.
I wondered if it was something romantic. He was beaming like a cat that just dragged home a bird carcass as an affectionate offering.
“What is it?” I asked.
“The Death Book,” for some strange reason, he was still smiling. “In case something should happen to me, this book will tell you where everything is, who you need to contact…” he continued on, but I wasn’t listening any longer.
I recoiled from this stark white book like it was a jinx.
“Look at it, this is important,” he said. He wasn’t smiling any longer. He looked irritated that I didn’t share his enthusiasm for The Death Book.
“It’s morbid,” I said, “I don’t like thinking about this stuff.”
“Well if something were to happen to me and you were stuck digging around trying to find out all this information, then you’d really be depressed,” he flipped open the book.
In it was all the information I could possibly need: Copies of our wills, all the account numbers, passwords, and phone numbers for the kids’ college funds, our joint accounts and retirement accounts, information about his pension, the details of our life insurance policies, and social security information. He had totaled up what kind of payout I could expect. His excitement morphed into relief as he shut the book.
“Well, that’s that,” he said. “Everything is taken care of.”
I had the sense that he would sleep better that night knowing that this was off his shoulders. As for me, I told myself that The Death Book was the best insurance policy I could have that my husband would live a long, long life.
Want to Build Your Own Book? There are books out there that you can buy, or you can simply get a three ring binder or folder and put the following in it:
Copies of your wills, healthcare proxies, durable power of attorney
Social Security cards and statements
Titles/Deeds to house and cars and any other real estate
Current statements for all Bank Accounts, including account numbers and passwords
Current statements for all retirement accounts, including account numbers and passwords
Current statements for all taxable individual and joint investment accounts, including account numbers and passwords
Current statements for all college savings accounts, including account numbers and passwords
All savings bonds (or list of them with maturity dates)
Insurance policies (account number, passwords, terms of payout)
Employer sponsored retirement accounts, including account numbers and passwords
Pension funds (account number, passwords, terms of payout)
Any lists of instructions you have for family members
Any list of personal effects that you would like handed down to specific family members and/or friends
Some people personalize their books with family stories that they want handed down, or with personal messages (letters) to loved ones
You would never jump into a game and wager thousands of dollars without first knowing the rules. And yet, every year many parents do just that as they embark on the process of seeking financial aid for college costs. The truth is if more parents understood how the information on the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) is analyzed, they would take steps to place themselves in the most favorable light. Strategic positioning can really pay off if you know how the game is played. Here’s what you need to know:
How your data will be assessed: The formula FAFSA uses to determine the Expected Family Contribution (EFC) considers the parent’s income, savings and investment assets (excluding retirement accounts and the primary residence), as well as the student’s assets and income. On average, parents are expected to contribute about 5.6% of their assets and between 22% and 47% of their income (with a $20,000-$60,000 allowance based on their age) towards college costs. Students are expected to contribute roughly 20% of their assets and 50% of their income (with a $3,000 allowance) towards the tuition bill. Switching assets into a child’s name would not be a helpful strategy. If your child is employed, consider opening a Roth IRA, as retirement assets are not considered assets.
What time fame you are working with: The FAFSA form is submitted during the student’s senior year in high school, based on data from the previous tax year (i.e., January 1 of the student’s junior year through December 31 of senior year), also called the Base Year. Strategies that can be employed to reduce income or assets before the assessment period could prove very beneficial (e.g., sell non-retirement assets before the Base Year and use this money to fund IRA or Roth IRA accounts; speak with your employer about receiving your bonus prior to the Base Year, or delay the bonus until the following year). In addition, avoid liquidating any investment assets during the Base Year, as that inflow of cash would be considered as income.
What counts against you: Non-retirement assets are considered available funds, even though you may be carrying high credit card debt. Prior to January 1 of your child’s junior year, consider taking some of your non-retirement savings or investments and using them toward reducing or eliminating this debt.
What works in your favor: Roth IRAs, IRAs, employer-sponsored retirement accounts, Coverdell accounts, 529 plans, annuities, or the cash value of life insurance policies are not considered as assets for the purposes of FAFSA. Prior to the Base Year, consider moving non-retirement assets (which FAFSA does count as assets) into one or more of these types of accounts.
Remember, if your child is looking at more elite, private schools, the CSS form will need to be completed as well. This formula assesses parents and students differently, and requires more of a contribution from both the parents and student.
After you submit the FAFSA form, the matter is out of your hands. But, what you do beforehand, when the matter is in your hands, can be critical to the outcome. Being aware of what you are up against may change your approach to the game and, hopefully, with a little planning, may help reduce the tuition bills.
Years ago, when I commuted by train to New York City, I remember feeling powerless and frustrated by delays. I would feel my blood boil if there was the threat that I would be late. Once I accepted the fact that I was not in control of whether the train would arrive on time, and took responsibility for what I could change — my commute became downright productive. I left myself more time to get to the station; I took an earlier train so that even if it ran late, I would still be on time; and finally, I always kept work or reading material at the ready to utilize the time spent commuting in a productive way. Investing is a lot like the train ride. It may be unpredictable and you may get anxious, so what can you do to make the most of this experience, instead of allowing yourself to be swept up in frustration? Plenty; but to be effective you can’t get emotional and you can’t panic. Take this time to assess what you have been doing, and whether or not your strategy needs adjusting. Here’s a step-by-step plan to empower you in these unsettling times:
1. What do you own? It is surprising how many people have tens or hundreds of thousand dollars invested, and yet they are not sure what they own, or what their portfolio is designed to do. Looking at your asset allocation (how your investments are spread out in the investment arena) is quite important. In fact, Ibbotson Associates, a leading authority on asset allocation, found that 92% of investment returns are determined by the types of assets owned. Market timing (buying high and selling low) accounted for just 6% of returns, and individual security selection accounted for a mere 2% of returns. Meet with your financial professional and discuss how your portfolio is invested not just between the broad categories, like stocks, bonds, and cash, but more specifically in what types of securities. For example, stocks (ownership in a company) can be grouped by capitalization (size), as in large, medium, and small. Stocks can also be classified by style: growth stocks are those that are expected to grow quickly; value stocks are thought to sell for less than they are worth (a “marked down” item, so to speak). Stocks can also be domestic (US), foreign, global, or from emerging parts of the world economy. Bonds (a loan) also fall into many categories, and can be issued by the US Government (or other governments), corporations or state and local municipalities. Alternative type investments, such as real estate, oil, or gold also can play a limited role in a portfolio and act as a hedge. Make sure the mutual funds owned in all portfolios contain different types of securities, or you run the risk of weighting your portfolio too heavily in one area; a market correction in that area would affect your investment results twice as hard. If you are not working with a professional, now may be a good time to consider working with a fee-only advisor, because this analysis takes time and needs to be done thoroughly to consider and minimize investment risks. Also, your situation may have changed since you constructed your portfolio. Make sure your asset allocation strategy considers:
Your time frame/goals;
All investments in all accounts;
Investment overlap in individual stocks owned and in mutual funds;
Different asset classes (stocks, bonds, etc.), different market capitalizations (large, mid and small companies), different investment styles (growth, value) and different markets (US, foreign, emerging);
Where the investments are owned (in a taxable brokerage account, or in a tax-deferred retirement account) because investing without being aware of potential taxes can result in “giving back” your returns in the way of taxes; and
If the risks assumed are worth the potential reward.
2. What is it costing you? Having investments and not paying attention to the costs is a sure-fire way to handicap your potential returns. If two portfolios own the same investments (such as the S&P 500 Index), but one’s fees cost 0.20% and you own the other, which costs 2.35%, immediately you have reduced your returns substantially. In a volatile or down market, paying higher fees can make generating a reasonable return quite unlikely. Most important, though, is what you forfeit over the long-term when you pay high fees. As investments compound over time, the cost of high fees becomes more damaging. Let’s assume these two investments each returned 10%. After the deduction of fees, the returns are dramatically different: the high-cost investment returned 7.65% versus 9.80% for the low-cost fund. After many years, these fees would really impact your bottom line. If you invested $10,000 in each of these investments, after 30 years, the high-cost investment would be worth $91,289; and the low-cost mutual fund would be worth $165,222 – nearly $74,000 more than the high-cost investment. Of course, this example is hypothetical and does not reflect past or future results for any investment. Click here to read more a more in-depth discussion about fees.
3. What is your plan? Again, the power lies with you. Maybe you have left your investments unattended and the stock portion of your portfolio is larger than it should be. Maybe you have not left enough of a cash reserve to cushion the blows from difficult markets. Perhaps you would benefit from a gradual reallocation of your assets towards a more palatable allocation that won’t keep you up at night. Maybe you have kept too much in cash and are not earning anything and could benefit from buying low as opportunities arise in this volatile market. Again, sit with your professional and really go over your objectives, time frame and tolerance for risk (keeping in mind, of course, that an all cash portfolio guarantees you a negative return in this low interest-rate environment). It has been our finding in working with clients, that accepting 60% of the market’s gains is well worth the protection of declining 60% less than the market in times of trouble. We lean toward a more balanced portfolio allocation for our clients for this reason.
Remember, until you sell something, you haven’t lost anything. But looking for ways to buy low and adjusting your portfolio to assume less risk and to pay less in fees will certainly benefit your long-term results in a meaningful way. The control is yours to seize. You can choose whether to allow yourself to feel stranded, waiting for the train to pull in, or you can use this time to make sure you are ready to climb aboard when the opportunity presents itself.
If fighting about money has become a ritual in your household, you are not alone. Money is a leading cause of tension between couples. Before it goes too far, realize that you both have control of the situation. These steps can help you work together to fix your differences:
1. Know both of your money personalities and create a plan/budget that works. There are three basic money personalities: hoaders, splurgers, and avoiders. Understanding why you treat money the way you do, and gaining insight into how your spouse/significant other feels about money, will make it easier to manage your situation.
Hoarders love to save and bargain hunt. Because they fear that they’ll never have enough, spending money makes them uncomfortable. Luckily, they are happy creating a budget, because they enjoy keeping track of their finances. By putting “splurge money” into the budget they can learn to enjoy their money without worrying that they are spending too much.
Splurgersare happiest when treating themselves (or others). Spending makes them feel loved and successful. The danger is that they will spend far more than they bring home. Because they like to be rewarded, they too can benefit from putting a line item in the budget for reasonable splurges.
Avoiders lack the confidence to deal with money. They ignore their financial responsibilities, such as balancing the checkbook or researching their investments. Their greatest risk is missing opportunities to make their money go farther. And, if they are married to a splurger, they won’t realize that debt is mounting up until it is too late. The best strategy for Avoiders is to take a class or read up on basic finances. Creating a budget is the best way to get familiar with the situation they were trying so hard to ignore. Because Avoiders tend to procrastinate, setting up automatic bill payment and automatic investments (where money is wired from a bank account to the vendor or investment account) is a helpful strategy.
2. Discuss the division of labor. Make use of your natural talents and assign responsibilities accordingly. Maybe one of you is efficient at bill paying, but the other is better at balancing the checkbook. You do not need to do all the jobs together, as long as you both remain informed. The same goes for recordkeeping and investing.
3. Agree on the ground rules. Obviously, no lying and no concealing are mandatory rules. Another good one: large ticket items need to be discussed before purchasing. Just make sure you agree on what dollar amount constitutes a large purchase.
4. Make sure long-term goals are in synch. For example, if you have been a stay-at-home Mom, your husband may be counting on you returning to work. However, secretly you may be dreaming of setting up your own business. Make sure you thoroughly discuss where you both see your lives in the near future. Now is the time to work any long range goals into the budget (such as laying the groundwork for a business, career change or early retirement). Be very specific about what you want saved and by when. That is the only way you can see if you are making progress.
5. Communicate regularly. Even if one of you primarily controls the budget and bill paying, you both need to review what is going on. Make a monthly date to discuss your money.
Keep in mind, as you put together your budget, there needs to be a regular amount allocated to saving and investing. Work first on creating an Emergency Fund, and then fund retirement. Aim to save at least 10% of your income, then you can get started on college savings. Together, you can fix your differences and work towards shaping your future instead of your future shaping you.
Growing up in a large family, my basic financial needs were always taken care of but as for the extras — it was like a bakery: “Take a number and get in line.” It annoyed me and, at times, it embarrassed me when a friend had the latest and greatest gizmo and I did not. But, it also motivated me to find a way.
I remember getting my older brother to let me clean his room for money, I took local babysitting jobs, and the moment I was old enough to put in for my working papers, I did. Now my first job paid peanuts, because it was a “seasonal” job and didn’t have to pay minimum wage. So for $2.75 an hour, I worked at the local pool; but I was happy as a clam, because I was earning my own dough.
When I left for college, my parents paid the lion’s share and I took out the standard $2,500 government loan and paid all my expenses: books, entertainment, clothes, etc. A funny thing happened. Because I had earned money in the past, I wanted to earn again, and I did not want to have to ask anyone (even my parents) for money. So, I started tutoring for $10 an hour (nice pay raise)! And just as I was getting comfortable and into the groove the boom was lowered: my Dad was retiring and we were moving to Florida. He wanted me to transfer to a state school there. Immediately I knew I had to do something to stop this. I didn’t want to leave, but what could I do? That’s when I learned about becoming a Resident Advisor or “Den Mother.” This job would single-handedly pay my Room and Board and pay me a stipend, and provide me with a phone. Thankfully, I got the job — now I had to sell it to my folks. My father’s reaction was not at all what I was expecting. I thought he might be angry at the lengths I had gone to, to foil his plan. Instead he said that I had thought it through well, had planned it well, and clearly it meant a lot to me to stay where I was. I will never forget the look on his face: it was one of satisfaction. He had done his job well.
Tips for Raising Do-It Yourself Kids
1. Let them have skin in the game. If they want something big, let that be a motivator for them to earn and save their money. You can help them out, but let them “own” a piece of it. It builds confidence, pride, and encourages a work ethic.
2. Don’t let them think that you will always step in. If you practice the law of natural consequences, they will learn very quickly that their actions (or inactions) produce results (good and bad). If they know that they will have to live with these consequences they will tend to be less impulsive and make better choices.
3. Guide them out of the box. Give them creative ideas on how they can achieve their goal, whether it be how to earn extra cash, or how to find something at a better price. Show them how they can “make” their own solution.
4. Clap hands. When they rise up to the task, let them know how proud you are and how proud they should be.
5. Let their youth be an asset. Enthusiasm and energy are great attributes of youngsters. Harness it and direct it toward a goal and watch them accomplish wonderful things. Don’t discourage them with words like, “You’re not old enough.”
6. Build confidence. Let them know that if they want something badly enough they have the power to make it happen for themselves.
Dina Isola, President of Real$martica, Inc. - COO and Director of Investor Relations, ATI Investment Consulting, Inc.
Following a successful career in marketing communications in the financial industry, Dina and her husband, Anthony, founded a registered investment advisory firm, ATI Investment Consulting, Inc., and ultimately the idea for the educational company Real$martica, Inc. was born. In dealing with investors and hearing their concerns, she spearheaded ATI’s investor education efforts, coordinating with local libraries and townships to offer free investor education seminars.
She has volunteered her time, writing financial articles and has conducted investor education classes geared to family financial matters. She is President of Real$martica, Inc. and is COO and Director of Investor Relations for ATI Investment Consulting, Inc. and personally handles all communications for both firms.
She is active in her local business community and serves on the Brookhaven Business Advisory Council and is a member of the Three Village Chamber of Commerce. She earned a BA in English and Communications from Fairfield University. She is a registered investment adviser, and is a licensedreal estate salesperson in New York State. Prior to founding Real$martica, Inc. she was a Vice President in charge of marketing communications for a privately-held investment management company in New York City. She has worked in the financial industry since 1987.
Anthony T. Isola, President, ATI Investment Consulting, Inc.
Anthony has married his passions, investing and education. He is President and founder of ATI Investment Consulting, Inc. (“ATI”) a registered investment advisory firm. His vast knowledge in matters of finance brings a well-rounded perspective to all that he does.
As an educator, he has a natural ability to explain complicated economic and financial concepts and make the practical application of these concepts come to life. In working with clients, he recognized how overwhelming building a financial plan can be, especially when most investors are vulnerable due to their ignorance on financial matters. He prides himself on empowering investors to understand how to look out for their interests and not fall prey to financial arrangements that will take them off goal. In addition to managing assets for clients, he has counseled investors on social security benefits, retirement income assessments, and college planning.
He teaches history at Plainview Old Bethpage Middle School and oversees students’ participation in The Stock Market Game and financial literacy for the Plainview Old-Bethpage Central School District. He has taught financial related courses to children, parents and staff members in the district, as well as to Long Island residents.
He holds a New York State Permanent Certification (in Social Studies). He earned a BA degree in Economics from Boston University and a MS degree in Secondary Education from Hofstra. Prior to teaching, he worked as a foreign currency trader in New York City for large international banks.