Honesty and Integrity


Honesty is the best policyWith this “race for the white house” upon us, I cannot help but think about these two words.

Honesty and Integrity.

I will not be getting political here.  I believe it is up to each of us to have our own beliefs and opinions and our own freedom to choose.

However, as I watch a race where I believe a particular candidate will do or say anything to be elected, I cannot help but think of the power behind these words: honesty and integrity.  I cannot help but wonder when our elected officials stopped being the government by the people for the people as designed by our founding fathers.  Did you ever stop to think how, in just 240 short years since our American revolution, we could screw so much up?  I also cannot help but wonder when becoming President of the United States become such a prize that it no longer represents all people in this great Country.

In the life of my personal family, I taught my children the value of honesty and integrity.  I believe our current political races teach our youth that it is OK to lie to personal advantage.  The whole situation makes me quite sad for the future of our Country.

As for myself, I will NEVER tell someone I am going to do something and not complete the task.  I taught my children not to lie to anyone and that, if you do, in the end, the truth will come out.  I learned these lessons by personal observation when I was young.  I saw the affects of my own relative hurting others by not being truthful (you can read more in my book to learn more).

I believe it is so important to live in truth.  I believe that truth gives you freedom.

Think about that for a moment….

When someone does not personally tell you the truth, whether it is a spouse, a coworker, a sibling, or your child – how does that make you feel?

Personally, if someone does not act truthful or complete what they say I do feel betrayed and am more cautious in dealing with that person the next time.  However, please note: I learned some years ago to let these feelings go, to forgive the person and move forward.  I learned that the only person hurt while staying in a negative and hurtful situation is myself.  One thing that is most important to consider here is how the memory of the betrayal affects our current and future opinions and actions about that person or a specific situation.  As I personally have stated many times, my goal is to have a nice day, every day, so I can enjoy life.  It’s important to assess and recognize our feelings.  If our feelings are of hate or retaliation, we need to take a moment to stop, reassess, and determine the best way to move forward to insure a positive life experience.

So…. back to our topic.  In reference to honesty and integrity, take a moment to evaluate this:

  • What do you stand for?
  • What do you expect for the future and what will you accept in your life?
  • How do you treat others?

These are questions you can use to start to live in your own truth and integrity.

Starting with ourselves to make ourselves better will insure a better future.  We are only able to control ourselves, our behavior, our feelings and our actions.

Just imagine the possibilities.

After all, it is time to enjoy life. It is Time to Play.

Love, Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is a board certified healthcare executive, a certified professional life coach, the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life and author of If I Knew Then What I Know Now, Our Quest for Quality of Life.  The concept behind time to Play and the Time to Play Foundation was absolutely created out of LOVE. Please see for more information.

The Land of the Free

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A few years ago we went to Washington D.C.  The Revolutionary War has always been intriguing to me, and Washington is full of history.  What you can see and learn there is amazing.  I have always wondered how so many people with like thoughts could gather together at that time in history. How could these people collaborate to write the Constitution. Why did people like Thomas Jefferson and Benjamin Franklin become part of this movement that formed America?  How did they have the foresight?  Why did they even do it?  They were wealthy professionals.  For sure they had a good life and didn’t really need to start what they did.  It is very thought provoking.

So, in Washington, D.C., standing at the Jefferson Memorial at the foot of the monstrous Thomas Jefferson statue, you can’t help but feel insignificant (I imagine you wondered why I mentioned Washington, DC. See, there was a reason). —

Today I think of all the men, women and families who sacrifice or sacrificed to keep the dream of the United States alive.  The fight for freedom, the land of the free, for free speech, for equality among all persons who live here.  And I think of how lucky we each are.

I think of all the organizations that fight for causes and the people that make up those organizations.  Yesterday I had the pleasure to meet a group of Blue Star moms, moms who had lost a child in recent combat.  They were at a benefit motorcycle rally we attended for, a benefit that was to bring awareness and funding for post traumatic stress disorder that many of our soldiers deal with upon their return from service.

I think of these people, each and every one, who joins together in a cause — and they do have the right to join together with like beliefs or goals because we live in the United States, the land of the free. In these organizations they have a goal to help make another’s life better.  I realize that is what our Country’s founding fathers did, too.  Working together you can get far.  Even against all odds.

If you have a chance, please visit  It is my goal to bring together people — regular citizens — who have something to offer someone else to make lives better.  From the posting of an event to providing knowledge as a “professional resource”, or listing a club or organization so another can find out about it and join the fun.  Resources for a better life.  A 5′ 2″ woman from Long Island is throwing a pebble in a pond to start a ripple effect with the hopes to help others.

We’d love to have you contribute to this project.  After all, see what happened with just a spark of an idea.

God Bless America — Let Freedom Ring.

Happy 4th of July.

– Doreen