As I sit here writing this, I think about the dentist appointment I’ve been putting off and the other things on my “to do” list that I prefer to ignore. I absolutely know that there is no room in our lives to put things off. They will always come back to haunt you; sometimes with a vengeance.
This quote perfectly pertains to the Time to Play Philosophy, which identifies that you have to be happy, healthy, have money and a work life balance to have quality of life. In my experience, and my belief, you cannot ignore any of these areas in achieving balance.
As a person who has worked in healthcare for the majority of my life, I absolutely can attest that if you don’t have your health you don’t have anything… Grandma used to say that all the time, and, trust me; I have seen people living in nursing homes with health issues that may have been preventable. This is a subject discussed in our book, If I Knew Then What I Know Now, Our Quest for Quality of Life (www.IfIKnewThenBook.com). I recognize that if you ignore a health concern, it just won’t go away.
What to do? We all, deep down, know what’s right and what’s wrong. You know if you’re eating the incorrect things. It’s all definitely a choice, and I’m certainly far from perfect. As a person with a gluten sensitivity, many times I’ll default to a food item that I know is “safe” as far as gluten is concerned but that is a non-preferred food choice as far as “health”; for example, potato chips – something that has become a “go to” when I’m at a party and there is nothing else available. Being too busy to eat the way I know is best is also a great excuse I make, even now at 48 years old.
I know that planning ahead in most every area of life is key, but I am old enough to recognize that planning ahead can sometimes be overwhelming.
I also know now that each moment of each day enables a new choice, which is a very reassuring thought to me. This enables practical behavior and an opportunity to change whatever I’m doing, at any time, to accommodate whatever my needs are at that given moment.
However, with age, it becomes even more apparent to me. I now know you can’t hide.
You can’t hide from troubling issues that impact your happiness, whether it is a work relationship, a personal relationship or a family relationship. If you ignore something, it’s still there. Not only is it still there, but it’s in your mind all the time. Sometimes it is hidden, but it always, somehow, makes it back into your thought pattern. Sometimes the thoughts become haunting and can take you from having a great day to bringing you down. Thoughts may be triggers that can, if you listen, make you aware that it is time to address something, change something, or do something. If you are in a situation that affects your happiness, it may be time to reevaluate that, too. What is in your current experience that will enable you to make a change?
Change is hard and people resist change. We’d rather just deal with the situation that is known vs. trying something new. However, there definitely becomes a time when what we’re dealing with, if it’s not working for us, has to change. My husband and I ask our kids all the time who the most important person in the world is. Do you know? It’s YOU. Sometimes I think we forget that. In reference to happiness, perhaps it is time to look at your options and move forward. It’s better to address a situation than to let it linger and affect your every day living.
You can’t hide from financial concerns. This is a big one that, in my experience, gets pushed to the back burner. There is a lot of help out there for people if they are overburdened. Just Google debt counseling in your area. There are always options. A quick story in reference to this topic. My oldest son was very big on complaining that there were no jobs available. He stayed in a job that he hated and that paid him less than he needed to make his rent and other bills. We encouraged him to apply to others, but he stayed in that job that created financial hardship for him and that also made him feel stressed and frustrated every day for almost an entire year. Throughout my life I’ve seen people stay in situations like this for many years. I now believe that, where there’s a will, there’s a way. If you cannot find a job that accommodates your needs, make one! That’s in our book, too. No one ever said you have to work for another person. We are all powerful and have amazing talents. You can be what you want to be. I know we sometimes forget the enormous power we have within. I know that, sometimes, we lose our power and that, sometimes, we feel helpless. Especially in this time where there is so much fear of losing jobs in our current society. I acknowledge that, yes, “things” have changed. However, I also realize that we all have to change with the times.
What are you good at? What do you love to do? Figure out where and how you can “work” in what you love. This ties in with the work life balance, the remaining part of the Time to Play Philosophy. It’s been said many times that if you love what you do you will never work a day in your life. I believe that 1,000%.
Is making a change easy? Not necessarily. Does it take work and does it take persistence? Absolutely.
However, I truly believe we all have the power within to make it happen. I know you know you can do it. All of it.
It’s up to YOU to make it possible.
Perhaps today is the time to stop hiding. Perhaps it’s time to take that first step to enjoy life. I guess I’d better get on the phone with that dentist.
Oh, and if you need guidance or support, we do have an amazing team of professionals who are available to help. Just reach out and we’ll guide you to the right one.
Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is a board certified healthcare executive with 28 years in healthcare and a certified professional life coach. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org or 631-331-2675