“When you choose to give up roller coasters, you MUST give up habitual ways of thinking and behaving. If not, you might as well stay on the coaster.”

Okay, I’m willing to try anything to feel better, I thought to myself. “What will I have to give up first?” I meekly asked.

“You MUST give up the need to control anyone and anything.”

“Why?”

“Trying to Control Anyone or Anything Leads to Unhappiness”

“Yikes…who knew?”

“My name is Rebecca L. Norrington and I’m a recovering Controloholic!”

Admittedly, I’ve spent decades determined to control everything and everybody that crossed my path. Controlling external events is like trying to control a tsunami…Mission Impossible! Further, why did I have the need to control anything and everyone outside of me? The answer was simple: I didn’t know I had other options. I didn’t know I could choose another type of behavior. I was only mirroring what I’d witnessed as a child. I actually thought that if I loved someone, it was my responsibility to tell him or her what to do. My mother and father always told me what to do and what to think. I was ignorantly keeping that behavior alive! More importantly, I had no clue that attempting to control anyone or anything other than myself would subtract from my happiness. I was constantly shooting myself in the foot. Besides, knew what was right. I especially knew what was right for everybody else. Yes, I spent a lot of time thinking and voicing my strong opinion about what others should do. “Listen to me; I know what’s best for you! Listen to meee!”

It’s funny, though, because with all of the controlling skills I’d mastered, I was miserable. For an example, when my “orders” weren’t followed and my suggestions were ignored, my “subjects” had major problems. Yes, they all had consequences to pay. The consequences ranged from high-pitched tongue-lashings to total exile. That’ll show them…try living without me!

“Trying to Control Anything or Anyone Leads to Unhappiness”

For me, giving up control didn’t happen overnight. I went out kicking and screaming. In fact, after years of detox I’m still in rehab on an out-patient basis. Admittedly, there are times when I feel a need for a cheap thrill ride; however, it’s not the same. I actually feel uncomfortable wearing my old controlling hat. After years of practice and patience, the old roller coaster has lost its draw and sparkle. What I can say is this—I’ve never been happier!

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Authored by: Rebecca L. Norrington

Rebecca L. Norrington is first and foremost a student of the Universe and ITs Laws. She has a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology, along with decades of education and training on topics from Spirituality to Human Behavior. Her professional journey includes several vocations: Happiness Specialist, Intuitive, Healer, Radio & TV Personality, Author, Speaker, Teacher, AFAA certified Fitness Instructor and Reiki Practitioner. In August 2011, Rebecca premiered RealitySpirituality, an online radio show that shares revolutionary tools and strategies that enable you to maintain and sustain a personal vibration of internal peace and contentment, regardless of your external circumstances. Rebecca loves to focus on everyday circumstances and events and how these circumstances and events align with our personal vibration. Rebecca's RealitySpirituality audience has grown rapidly and currently has thousands of listeners around the world. Rebecca has a clear vision of hosting RealitySpirituality on a Major TV Network. RealitySpirituality is heard LIVE every Sunday at 7:00 AM (PST)  In June 2013, Rebecca was one of 17 authors who contributed to publishing "If I Knew Then What I Know Now: Our Quest for a Quality Life" found on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Rebecca authored Chapter 3 which focused on (1) Defining a Quality Life, (2) What's Important, (3) Life is a Gift and (3) Forgiveness. LATEST NEWS: Rebecca's first book, RealitySpirtituality: The Truth About Happiness, will be released April 1, 2014. (US $19.95) To order first editions email: info@rebeccanorrington.com. Free shipping to first 50 orders within the US. For More Information Visit: www.rebeccanorrington.com www.realityspirituality.com Twitter: rlnorrington FaceBook: RealitySpiritualityEmail: info@rebeccanorrington.com    

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