Ask yourself: When you talk to other people… people you may work with, people in your family — your spouse, your siblings, your kids… do you encourage or discourage? Do you propel a person to greatness or do you say something that can break their souls?
I’ve been thinking about this ever since Stacy Gertz, an amazing and important part of our Time to Play Foundation’s team, shared a video about a woman, Lisa Nichols, who was discouraged at 19 years old by teachers who told her she was a terrible writer and a terrible speaker https://youtu.be/Kcu92UlIQfs. If you take a few minutes to listen to Ms. Nichols’ video you will also learn how she was in a situation where she was economically disadvantaged. She said she found herself in a life situation where she said she was broken in every way.
How did this happen? Could the words she heard while she was younger have impacted her in a negative way? I believe they could have been a contributor to many years of her negative life experience. She had a lot going against her. She could have given up, but she found power within herself, against all obstacles, to change her life.
This is an observation I have made over these past years working on the Time to Play Foundation, a not for profit organization intended to inspire others and provide resources for a better life.
I believe that, sometimes, we live in too many years in the “what is expected of us” or the “I can’t”.
After almost 50 years of my life, I have started to understand the power of “can’t” and the power of “not possible” that we seem so inclined to adopt; perhaps starting because of the opinions from others. I’ve included here another really short and pertinent video (it’s only 1 minute and 16 seconds) that gives incredible examples of “can’t” that people overcame – people including Walt Disney, Lucille Ball, and more: https://youtu.be/hzBCI13rJmA.
This story of “Can’t” is retold by so many again and again.
The good news is, I have learned it is ever too late for “CAN”. Henry Ford was 45 years old before beginning to be successful. Just look at the empire he built and his legacy.
I believe it is never too late for any of us.
I believe the “trick” is to encourage our younger generation via OUR impact vs. the need to unbury the “CAN” later in life after so many years of believing the “CAN’T”… to gain and to give the tips and tools from those who are older and have had the experiences that could save others some time.
To encourage others to PREinvent their life®, not reinvent, as so many do again and again.
In closing, again I ask…. What is YOUR impact on others?
Do you encourage and propel?
If the answer is no, I hope you will take the time to stop a moment and identify why not.
If the answer is yes, perhaps you can give me a call (631-331-2675 or email me firstname.lastname@example.org) so WE can move forward, together. #PeopleHelpingPeople.
Just imagine the IMPACT, then.
After all, I believe it is time to enjoy life.
It is Time to Play…
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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is a board certified healthcare executive, a certified professional life coach, the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life and author of If I Knew Then What I Know Now, Our Quest for Quality of Life. The concept behind time to Play and the Time to Play Foundation was absolutely created out of LOVE. Please see http://www.timetoplay.com/ for more information.