As a woman, all my life, I’ve coddled and placated people when things haven’t gone right for them, saying things like, “I understand”, or “I know how hard it is”.

Until today. 

I have reached my limit for being able to listen to the blame game.  I woke up this morning aggravated, which caused me to alter my approach.  No more sugar-coating.  We seem to need a reality check we need responsibility back.

Truly, I understand that things occurred in our society that have caused our new woosy-like, entitlement way of thinking.  I’ve decided not to list specific examples here today; however, it just blows my mind how we overanalyze everything instead of addressing the root cause of the problem.  Where did the question “how does that make you feel” come from, anyway?

Our society has changed, in many ways, taking us from being independent to dependent. Where is our sense of responsibility? We wait for people to fix things instead of us going out there, rolling up our sleeves, and doing it.

I started, first, for myself.  I had become tired and overwhelmed.  I started to become soft.  I realized I needed to learn things so I could take my life back, and then decided to build this project where resources could come under one roof to help others learn – the concept of people helping people vs. the “me” mentality.

The intention for is to provide resources that enable people to take responsibility for themselves.  To learn what they need to know to enjoy life.

A long time ago I realized that people stopped being proactive in this society.  It was always someone else’s fault they were in the situation they were experiencing.  Poor health?  Not their fault.  Depressed?  Not their fault.  Not enough money?  Not their fault.  Doing bad at work?  Not their fault.

Guess what.  It’s our fault if we don’t have the ability to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and fix it.

Maybe things didn’t come along as easy as you thought they would.

Maybe things aren’t always going your way.

Maybe “times are tough”.

Face it.  There are no shortcuts or leprechauns at the end of a rainbow with a pot of gold.

Hard work and determination built this country.  Look at the greats that came before us.  People were determined to succeed, to explore, to blaze new trails.

We seem to have gotten away from that philosophy.

Toughen up, people, and stop having a pity party.

Learn what you need to know so you can take control of your life.  After all, we’re only here for a short time. – resources for a better life.  It’s time YOU enjoy YOUR life.

Authored by: Doreen Guma

Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC 

Doreen holds a Bachelor of Science in Management, a Masters in Business and Policy Studies, is a Fellow of the American College of Healthcare Executives (a board certified healthcare executive), a Certified Professional Coach and a Certified Life Coach.

Doreen is the founder of Time to Play, a place to find resources for a better life.  She came up with the Time to Play Philosophy that you have to be happy, healthy, have money and a work / life balance to have quality of life, and believes everyone has the right and the ability to enjoy life.

Doreen has worked in healthcare since 1987, 14 years in a hospital and since 2001 in skilled nursing facilities.  She has held positions in administration, as the Director of Quality Improvement, Risk Manager and Director of Medical Records.

In 2005 she and her husband opened D. James Marketing, a healthcare specific consulting firm which assists healthcare organizations with new program generation, quality improvement, staff and client satisfaction, event coordination, coordinating educational symposiums and more to help spread the message about the healthcare servics they provide. The primary goal of D. James Marketing is to educate the community about resources that are available so people may know where to seek help in the event of a health need or a health crisis with a focus on proactive prevention. 

Contact: 631-331-2675 


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