Heavenly Peace: A Personal Reflection

So how about celebrating the new year once again by taking those resolutions and breaking them down into realistic, doable and just slightly uncomfortable steps. Write them down, break it out, and then tackle them one at a time. Great change comes from great and powerful moments. Making the fear of change more manageable will help you to embracing the changes you want to make. And that will keep you on the new year resolutions highway.

My holiday season has begun with another lesson learned along my Grief Journey. It comes with the passing of one of my friends who has done the billing in my Family & Personal Counseling practice. Diana Hogan reminded me of my aunt Rose, who we also lost to cancer.

For the first time in awhile, I was really shaken up going to the funeral home to pay my respects. Not only were powerful memories triggered (of my son, Michael, and my aunt Rose), but it seemed like I was falling back in time to some of the dark days of facing loss.

But this time I had a better idea of what to do. Why? Because my Grief Journey has taught me well. And that, believe it or not, is the good news.

I began talking to my family. I started telling stories of aunt Rose. Shared some warm memories. I wrote a bit in my journal about how I was feeling and visited www.OpenToHope.com for some fresh inspiration. I started thinking about my internet radio show and some of the things that my guests have taught me on my segments about grief and loss. I reached out to Judy, who has become one of the important Light Bulb people in my life, to share how I was feeling. In short, I did not isolate myself like I did 13 years ago when I was in my Grief Journey with Michael. I knew that there were many places and many people I could turn to. I knew that, in time, my mind would begin to shift again and the hope would return. Why? Because my Grief Journey has taught me well.

As I kept reaching out, I also began to see the physical symptoms coming into play. Parts of my body, like my neck and shoulders, were beginning to ache. My jaw started to hurt. And my mindful, healthful eating habits were challenged. All these were actually familiar physical reactions to my mind in unrest. Knowing how your body reacts in important. And in this case, I was able to see that my aches and pains were only temporary. Why? Because my Grief Journey has taught me well.

Everyone has their own Grief Journey because learning how to handle the loss of life is the key to living life. Some moments along the way are dark and filled with despair. Other moments can be filled with wonderful memories that bring hope back into our lives. Grief is not a step by step process that we go through and then move on. It is a constant part of day to day living — because it teaches us powerful lesson. Live life by the moment because it is the only thing we can truly control. My Grief Journey has taught me well.

God bless my friend, Diana, as she continues to bless our lives. Rest in heavenly peace — Ron

Authored by: Ron Villano

Ron Villano, M.S., LMHC, ASAC is the leading expert in working through change. As a father who lost his 17-year old son in an auto accident, he always speaks from the heart. As a licensed psychotherapist and life coach, he counsels others on how to work through difficult times.

As a national speaker and author of The Zing, Ron has appeared before sold-out audiences across the country and is currently featured on the new Verizon FiOS1 network. His funny, captivating and approachable style creates the powerful, life-changing moments you have been looking for.

Ron's Podcast Link: Get through the holidays after the loss of a loved one.

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