I was talking to a friend who said that he and his wife celebrated their wedding anniversary the other day. She told him not to buy her a gift.
As this blog is associated with a “quest for quality of life”, his words inspired me to write some words of wisdom for all those men out there that might think a woman is serious when they tell them not to buy a gift for a special occasion. Anniversary, birthday, Christmas (or whatever holiday you celebrate), Valentine’s Day…. actually — pretty much any holiday or special day — guess what — we don’t mean it.
How many women are smiling right now?
So, how does that tie into a “quest for quality of life”? If you don’t buy the gift and a lovely card, you won’t have any. For days, or months, possibly.
Now, depending on your partner, it may not be necessary to spend a lot of money. Maybe just a rose or a card will do. But, actually taking us up on the “don’t buy me anything” statement is really a mistake.
Why do we say it? We’re testing you. We want to see you think. To see what you can come up with on your own. My husband and I are true partners. We share chores. Most of the time he seems to bare the brunt of doing the bills and laundry at this point. BUT — I mostly do the planning and the gift buying. So, once in a while, I like to see what he can do on his own.
Hopefully you won’t think I’m shallow. I’m really not. I really don’t even like getting gifts. But, once in a while, it’s nice to know that he thinks about me — that we’re not just work partners, but that he feels I’m special enough to come up with something that will make me smile and feel special.
Afterall, everyone needs to feel special once in a while.
For the next anniversary or special day — celebrate. And, buy a gift.