When you think something is going wrong in your life you have three ways to respond. You can (1) complain (to yourself, or others) (2) blame (yourself or others) or (3) change (yourself). If life doesn’t go according to your plan or your expectations, how do YOU respond? I’m asking this because I used to spend a lot of my valuable time complaining and blaming without a thought of what I was creating for my future moments. Admittedly, I didn’t know I had other options, but now that I know I can change my thoughts and my behavior, I’m on board.
When I used to complain, guess what I discovered? I never had a shortage of circumstances or people to complain about. Never. The complaint “well” never ran dry. Yes, I was able to complain at any given time, 24-7, 365 days a year. The supply of complaints was endless. What’s even worse – and laughable – is that I thought complaining was “normal”. Look around, or more importantly, look in the mirror. I don’t know too many people that don’t complain on a daily basis. You?
Don’t think for a minute that complaining was the only thing on my “to do” list. No, I also liked to blame everybody and anybody (but myself) for my unhappiness. Oh, I loved that one. Take responsibility for my unhappiness? No thank you – especially, when there’re so many other people to blame. Right?
It was only when I consciously made happiness my number one priority, did I make the decision to change my behavior.
Why is it So Important to Change?
The Universal Law of Cause and Effect is no joke. The Law of Cause and Effect states that for every action, there is an equal reaction. This is extremely important because WHATEVER action (cause) you emit, you will receive a corresponding reaction (effect). And, by the way, it doesn’t matter whether or not you believe in the validity of the Universal Laws. Whatever you cause, you will experience an equal effect. There are no exceptions to the Laws of the Universe. None. Ninguno. Aucun. Méiyǒu. Keine.
What’s the Solution?
When I started accepting that everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) that happened to me was actually a blessing and/or a valuable lesson, I changed my thoughts. I also changed my reaction to the circumstance. When I changed my thoughts and my reactions, I automatically changed my behavior. I began asking, “How is this experience serving me”? As I started to look for the good in the otherwise “bad” situation, my focus changed from finding what’s wrong, to discovering what’s right! It may sound cRaZy, but it works for me. Without question, I’m much happier now.
Great things flow effortlessly to all who are accountable for their actions. I encourage you, my dear friends, to take accountability to the next level. When you realize you have the power and the ability to change your behavior, life gets easier and you will smile (inside and out) a lot more.
Added Bonus: When YOU change, the world changes!